re: Celebrating Our 30th Wedding Anniversary Today

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Any words of advice for the rest of us?

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Here are some random thoughts/observations.

Through my own selfish actions our marriage almost ended a few times. When you have two people there are going to be conflicts. Do not bury them, resolve them in love. Admit that you are not always right and it does not have to always be your way. Learn to admire your spouse's strengths and play to them. She should feel loved and protected (again - a failing on my part) in order to blossom. Communication is key. Work off the premise you do not understand and want to. In other words, "Seek to understand then be understood." You have to demonstrate respect for each other as human beings. When you despise your spouse (for the smallest of reasons) it is easy to justify your behavior.

Heading off to church right now to celebrate with our two children. Thanks for the well wishes!

ETA: Find ways to enjoy life together. My wife loves our dogs so I make it a point to get home from work early enough to walk them with her in the park. Just a small way of telling her "I love you."

And every human has flaws. That other person who is promising you a better life has flaws as well. Don't fall for that trap. Water your own lawn.