re: Question to OT about an old flame

People who don't care say I don't care, or nothing. People who do care say I don't really care. There is that small holdback. You add the "really" thing to almost every post. You care. Admit it to yourself, if not the OT.

You care enough to start a thread about it. That is because you care. You think of the ex when you are nailing the current GF.

Your ex is better than your new GF. If the new GF was better you would not contemplate upheaving 4 people's lives. You are at some point going to make a move but wish she would make it for you. This is not alpha.

I will say again, since you are too scared to make a move, ask her to go get drunk when you know he is out of town. If she says yes, you are in. If she says no, you never were and all your thoughts of the attention she gives you are delusional.

Either way, you need to get rid of the current GF as she is clearly not your ultimate choice. You will probably stay with her since she tolerates you and that would be the beta thing to do.

And last, your buddy was nailing your GF for a while before he told you about it. He wanted to make sure there was something there before he told you about it. Don't feel obligated to call him right after you nut the first time. Ultimately you do want to call him though.

Good luck.