re: Wife had a miscarriage..This sucks

I've got two kids. We had 3 early miscarriages with the 1st one, and 3 early miscarriages with the second one.

The first one sucked. The second one sucked a little less, the third one sucked a little less than the second one, and then we had a kid.
the first one on the second kid didn't bother me at all. Just came to expect it.

Trying for that first kid is exciting and when you get your hopes up after that first ultrasound, it hits you hard when you lose it.

this happens to just about everyone and it doesn't even phase me in the least bit anymore. We are about to try for the third and i can tell you just like we did with our second kid, we can go to the doctor and they can tell us we are 7 or 8 weeks pregnant, but to me we aren't pregnant until we hit 12 weeks. I almost don't even consider us to be pregnant at 8 weeks, it's just a waiting game to get to that 11th or 12 week where you know the odds are greatly in your favor that you are having a kid now.


The best thing to do is talk to other people about it. It's not embarrassing or anything, and once you start talking to people, you realize that almost every couple goes through this.