re: Did you want to know who your SO slept with in the past?

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It does matter. It tells you something about that person and not always something negative like most people think. Almost everyone agrees that sex is an important part of a healthy relationship. Therefore it is an important part of life, right? I find it strange to ot discuss something a big part of someone's life like that. It's fine to disagree. I'm just saying I could never be with someone that wouldn't want to discuss it. Being open and honest is very important to me. That's all.

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But can you blame some for not wanting to delve into detail?

I'm secure; I don't mind telling my wife what she doesn't want to hear; and I certainly don't mind hearing about her past -- zero fricks. But I can understand why some are not comfortable with it, and I don't believe it is an unparalleled barometer of someone's real self. Sex is just sex, which is essentially an emotional expression -- if you can't figure out if someone is sexual or asexual through your interactions with them, you should not be in a real relationship with them.