re: How to tell a girl, "He's not gonna marry you, honey."

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so yours is a business transaction, not a matter of undying love and desire to be with him?

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No, I love my husband very much. But after wasting 9 years on a dead end relationship in the past....I wasn't gonna be a fool a second time.


I also made it very clear to him that I wanted marriage and a family one day. Never gave him ultimatums but did ask him point blank one time "do you see yourself marrying me in the future, because if you don't...please tell me now so we don't waste each other's time"


His reply to that "I love you and want marriage, but am not 'there' right at this moment". That was 2 years into the relationship. I was 31 then. I appreciated his honesty and just wanted to know that marriage was a future goal of his as well. A year after that conversation we started looking at rings together. 2 years after that conversation we were engaged.