re: Best ways to get over a breakup?

The last serious, legit relationship I was in..I gave myself time to be miserable. You're gonna feel like shite, that's natural, there's no need to try to beat yourself up or feel "wrong" for being sad.

So basically, I gave myself about 2 months to be a deadbeat. I barely left the house. Got real drunk, real often. Listened to breakup music and watched TV all day. Was basically just worthless. But I gave myself an end date. When it was over and I'd kind of gotten it out of my system, I did anything I could think of to make positive changes in my life. I started experimenting in the kitchen with different recipes. I started working out. I started reading the shite out of books. I basically tried to find positive, constructive things to do with my time and energy.

Also, and this may not be for everyone, I wrote a little letter to myself. I talked about aaalllll the reasons that our relationship was bad and why it couldn't/wouldn't work and why I was better off not being with her. Whenever I'd get down, I'd go back and reference it. It really helped to put things into context.