re: How do y'all marry people and hate their parents?

Things are a lot better now that my wife and her brothers and sisters are all grown and moved out. I don't think MiL ever really wanted to be a mom and raising kids always stressed her out and made her very mean in a lot of ways. The kids moving out has seemingly mellowed her out to a degree. FiL was waaaayyyyyy too passive.

We can have family gatherings now and they're typically fine but I wouldn't say that we're friends or anything. Thankfully SiL and her husband are actually really cool to hang out with so that's a nice family connection.

Her brother is a bit of a grown child with a temper problem so we don't really hang out with him all that much. He's too hair-trigger and the wife and I don't put up with his B/s.