re: NM

I literally quoted this verse today, talking to my aunt about my parents' marriage. They are still married after 40+ years. My dad is milquetoast and my mom is imperious in her petty, querulous demands. My dad compensates by collecting treasures (to him.) I divorced twice, one sister married beneath her and is subservient to her husband to the point of apathy, and my other sister married a woman. My dad considered leaving my mom several times (as told to me by family members) and I wish he would have! Now he is showing early signs of dementia and he has to live with a total nag who barks at him and belittles him every time he loses his keys.

My aunt said she was staying with her womanizing deadbeat husband until her last kid graduated high school, and her kids knew how bad he was and felt guilty that she stayed because of them. If it's a short amount of time, it might be worth it to wait, but from what I've seen, if you know it's doomed you should act on that feeling sooner than later. Being single and alone feels a lot less lonely than being married and alone.