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I know exactly how you feel, brother. Only with me, I was the one who ended it so I have the added grief of beating myself up for making such a stupid decision.

I only feel guilty when they react badly - like crying. Breaking up with a girl means they will cry. I had one grab my arm and start sobbing so loudly after I broke up with her that I thought their neighbors would hear.

That makes me feel horrible even though it was the right decision. None of the girls I dated were bad people. All but one were just not the right person for me. The one that ended up being the right one for me is now my wife.

Get past the guilt. The right one is out there.

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Posted by Klingler7

Houston

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Posted on 1/13/23 at 9:12 am to goofball

I grew up in an abusive home. Never dated in high school. Met my first girlfriend during freshman year at university. Dated for 2.5 years and then she broke it off during final exams. Ouch !!!

Ivana and I have remained great friends for 36 years. She broke my heart in college and it hurt when she got married to a man 16 years her senior.

I was depressed for several years but here is why. I had an unhealthy attachment to Ivana. She was six years older and I was very insecure. I was also the jealous type that wanted her to spend her college weekends with me. I feared losing her and in my he end I did.

I had to realize my faults and accept that I wasn’t ready for a commitment after college. I acted too needy and was using my girlfriend as a mother type figure. As I matured, I accepted that the timing wasn’t there and that God had different paths for us to take.
Once, I realized that, the attachments disappeared. I was free from the obsessive clinging.

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