re: Why do women post about having still borns on social media

Sorry her tragedy is getting in the way of your day.

Anyway, some people go overboard on the socials, I agree. This is not one of them. Women have been trained to not talk about the painful realities of miscarriages and stillborns. I never have an issue when I see someone talk about it online. Because I always end up seeing someone helping that mom in a genuine way. We are made to be in community with one another and I honestly believe in this case, it brings out the best in humanity with people who care and want to help via their experiences or resources.

My third child was in the NICU for a while and I had no clue how excruciating it was until I experienced it myself. My child was on a vent and wasn’t doing well, and because I asked for prayers on fb (not my usual MO but I knew prayers would help, not hurt) I ended up getting connected with a non profit that offers support and connection with another mom who experienced the same. Basically it just gave me someone to emotionally unload on that wasn’t my husband or family… like someone else said, my hormones were JACKED and even though I consciously knew my baby should make it, my emotions were a wreck seeing my son with a million tubes and lines going everywhere from his little body. That woman prayed for me, with me, and just was “there” for me in a way that only someone could be who’d endured the same.

I’m usually good for a social media is bad thread, but not for this reason.