re: Why aren’t anti abortion adopting children

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Plus there’s always the fear that the “real” parents will somehow stop it all at the last second.

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It is tough, but that is the mentality you have to have when going into fostering, but it is also the hope. Their is a couple that lives near us and who has adopted three from foster care and still has another that they are currently fostering. They had a child for two years after taking over while she was a newborn. Her bio mom wasn't a bad mother, she just didn't have her life together because of a string of bad luck and bad choices. So after that two years, they went thru the lengthy adoption process, I've been told it takes about 6 months to a year. So at that point when they'd finally finalized the adoption they mother miraculously had turned it all around. The bio Mom showed back up asking, not demanding to have her child back, but understood if they wouldn't.

I don't know if I would have this sort of strength but they spent the next few months visiting with the bio Mom, and seeing if she truly had turned it around and they saw that she had. So even after having custody at that point for the first three years of the child's life, they agreed to give the child back, they didn't want the kid to be 16 and ask why they did not let her go back to her Mom when her Mom had turned her life around. That is the goal of fostering, but I honestly don't know that I would have that same sort of strength. The bright spot of that is that they were reunified, and the bio Mom did actually turn her life around. The kid is actually in her teens now and regularly babysits for many of the foster families in our area.