re: Grandmother into cardiac arrest. Job starts Monday. SO coming for interview tom.

she is most likely in a coma.

I was extremely close to my grandmother and since I was really young when she got sick and died I kind of avoided visiting her since the hospital really freaked me out. Plus her medication and condition started causing dementia so the few times I did visit she didn't know who I was and one time starting screaming in what I can only describe as terror when I walked in the room. She thought I was an intruder. That basically killed any future visits since I never wanted that to happen again, to me and especially to her. I was wracked with guilt every day for not going. It still gets to me a little sometimes. Hell, this already hurts to type.

I did go when it was clear that she only had a few hours left. It was painful to be there and I felt tons of regret for not going more, but the ability to say goodbye to her face, even if she couldn't hear me, and apologize even though, in this life, she never knew that I'd done it, meant everything to me. I'll never regret going, and you won't either. Granted my reasons were different than yours, but if you can get there, get there.

One last point. If you do everything in your power to get there and can't make it in time, don't worry. One way or another, she'll know you tried. This is, in my opinion, as much about attempting the right thing as it is actually doing it.

Agree that this needs to be about you and your GF will be fine. Next, I am also sure your job will understand as well. If not, is it really the right place for you anyway.

I just lost my grandmother on 9/6. There were a few times I saw her when she was unresponsive. While it isn't the way you want to see her you have the opportunity to still talk/cry/laugh with her. It will help I promise.

Prayers man headed your way for sure!

I'd talk with my employer about the situation ASAP. You will regret not going. Your employer obviously is invested in you, so it doesn't sound like the type of company that would rescind the offer because you have a family emergency. Your girlfriend will be okay and understand as well. The bottom line is all of those things will be waiting for you when you get back. Your grandmother may not, unfortunately.

My dad was on a vent for 4 days in May and they didn't think he would pull through. My brother and I flew up there thinking this was it, and the old man pulled through. Just saying there isn't no hope when someone is on a vent. Though obviously different circumstances. Prayers for you and your family.

Fly home today, say goodbye to your grandmother. Fly back Sunday, start your job on Monday.

good luck man. that's a terrible situation. but you'll get through it.

This will sound cruel but I would not go back unless you know they are withdrawing support. She is sedated on either protocol or fentanyl/versed and will not know you are there. Your grandmother would not want to be the cause of you or your fiancé risking your jobs over her. Wait for more info and then make the decision.
Eta: should read propofol...auto correct.

It's the end sorry to say. God Bless your grandmother and your family.

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