re: Your 9 year old son steals money out of your wallet

Chastising and shunning pushes kids away, it modifies their behavior by showing them your love is conditional and if not interrogated teaches them to suppress their true feelings. Like someone without oxygen, all the can think about is repairing the relationship, they can’t consider the actions. A child’s attachment needs need to be met before they can learn. As they become older and independent these events that divide give the child the opportunity to seek other attachments, income peer orientation and it’s deleterious effect on the parent child relationship.