re: Is your S/O fat? Would you ever tell him/her to get in better shape?

Fortunately not. She's naturally slender and gets a lot of exercise working with her horses. I have an ex who's as big as a house. Partly a result of her lupus medication, partly because she eats so damn much. When I was with her, she worked hard to stay in shape, but you could tell the tendency was going to be there. Now she's completely let herself go. She's 5-9 and I estimate is north of 200 lbs now.