re: How does my Valentine's Day menu look?

Menu sounds tasty, but why so many things requiring last minute attention? The shrimp toast will need to be fried immediately before serving, and ditto for the seared duck breast and the risotto (which is notorious for congealing as it stands into an unappetizing lump). I'd swap out two of those items for things that can be prepared in advance, especially if your dining room is away from the kitchen. Otherwise, she's gonna be sitting at the table alone for a while.

Ditch the fried shrimp toast app, go with something simple and nibbly, like a warm goat cheese round alongside the salad, served with crostini/tiny toasts. Then do the seared duck breast, but swap the risotto for a wild rice pilaf (holds way better, goes well w duck).

Chocolate mousee for dessert....easy to make ahead, serve w fresh raspberries and strawberries.