re: Destination Weddings

I don't think it is a big deal if you only expect your closest friends and family to come. Also, give as much notice as possible. Our wedding was in NYC and we gave 2 years notice. The only people who came were immediate family and our very closest friends, about 6 friends total. We also made sure everyone knew that we would understand if they couldn't come. My brother-in-law was the one person who couldn't manage to come up with the money over 2 years and so we paid for his flight. Nevermind that he was in NYC the month before but that is for an entirely different thread.

I think brides who have 10 bridesmaids and expect them to do everything for them for an entire year including multiple lavish parties are much more selfish than most destination wedding couples.