re: ex wife keeping my kids need court to make her stop i guess

If you actually got the divorce and a child custody ruling as you describe, then she is violating it. If you contest that and you are straight up, she'll be in trouble. Only way to do it is thru the courts though and from your writing I can tel you aren't the person to handle such actions on your own. Sorry, bud, you're gonna need an attorney....Or one of your "kins who got some real smarts". Does that make sense?