re: My Mom has been getting worse with her dementia

I think my dad has just decided it is almost time. at the VA, when discussing his kidneys, he told the doctor that he has had a good life, outlivd his own father (who died of kidney related issues), and thanked him for the care that he has provided, and he was good with whatever was to come.

for us there is no surgery or treatment we can do for him outside medications, which the VA took him off some because it just isn't really going to do any good anymore.

it is a hard pill to swallow - my dad has always been my hero. I joined the Navy because he had enlisted as a kid, and I wanted to do him proud.

Jim , Pisco and others - I truly understand where you are all coming from, not hollow words or sentiments, but literally I do - and you have all the positive vibes I can spare your ways.