re: Genuine OT help on a new engagee

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Run!

There’s flags everywhere and it will save you from a horrible divorce.

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Seriously destination weddings and big, over the top weddings are ridiculously narcissistic. For whatever reason many women think they somehow deserve a perfect day where they are the center of attention....why they have arrived at this conclusion is beyond understanding. If she is serious about the marriage and not just the wedding getting hitched at the courthouse and having a small celebration with close friends and relatives afterwards is indicative of being serious about being married and not just engaged and planning a wedding. I would act as if it did not mean a thing in the world to me. I certainly would not let on as if it was something I was concerned about because if she is having doubt that will make them worse. If you are, however, concerned about it beyond simple logistics, I would tell her in no uncertain terms that it was a problem for me. Either way you get beyond being bogged down.