re: Deputies arrest 4 in LSU student Madison Brooks case

I have had this conversation with my husband many times. We did the drunk at a bar hook up thing in college for a while before we grew up, started dating and got married. He’s made similar comments to what y’all are saying.

The thing is, girls and women have historically been taught that teenaged boys and men can’t control themselves so it’s up to us to not “put ourselves in a situation” or wear something provocative that could lead a guy to not be able to control himself. There was tons of victim blaming when a female was assaulted because “why did she leave with him?” Or “why did she wear that short, tight dress?”

Times are changing, and as they do, the question is no longer “why did she put herself in this situation?” But “why did he not listen when she said no or was too drunk to consent” etc. So will this societal shift maybe lead to a “cry wolf” situation where a girl claims rape when she really just regrets consenting to sex? Yes, that has probably already happened. So just how women have been expected to be selective with who they hook up with or what situations they put themselves in, men will need to be just as thoughtful so that they don’t end up hooking up with a crazy chick that lies about being raped.