re: Just got my arse chewed for saying "honey" to a co-worker

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Political correctness gone awry. I can understand someone preferring not to be addressed in that manner but sheesh just politely ask someone not do it.

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To be fair, all we have is his side of the story that he said it innocently and that she snapped at him and "got his arse chewed."

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I accidentally said excuse me honey to a large black man at work. I apologized profusely & thankfully he didn't report me

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A good looking white girl can call me honey any time.

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I wouldn't get a male coworker fired if they called me "honey" at work but I would def pull him aside and tell him it's not cool.

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See this is why I add a pat on the butt to let my female coworkers know that we're being informal and it's all good.

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To be fair, all we have is his side of the story that he said it innocently and that she snapped at him and

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This. It sounds like he OP's "I know Honey" was in response to something that the woman was trying to explain. Might have cut her off just a little so I suspect he came off as condescending.

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Because this country is full of people that just can't wait to be offended by something.

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Too many people are thin skinned or waiting for something to happen. A few years ago, I had a co-worker use the term "n***** rig" in front of me. He apologized, it was all cool. Damn, don't all of us have some baggage? I do.

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This. It sounds like he OP's "I know Honey" was in response to something that the woman was trying to explain. Might have cut her off just a little so I suspect he came off as condescending.

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I try to treat women the same as men in my office so as to avoid anything like this. If you wouldn't call a man honey or some other name you shouldn't call a woman the same thing. Pretty good rule of thumb IMO. Use their first name, sir or mam.

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Then I really feel sorry for you or anyone that works in this kind of environment.

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If you have even just a little social intelligence, it's not hard to figure out what is appropriate in a work environment.

I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything by not being able to call women I don't know "honey".

That might be fine in the oil field. It's not in a bank, physicians office, law firm, etc. That's where the social intelligence comes in to play.

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I try to treat women the same as men in my office so as to avoid anything like this. If you wouldn't call a man honey or some other name you shouldn't call a woman the same thing. Pretty good rule of thumb IMO.

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Very good rule of thumb. Easy to remember and act on

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I'm from the south as well and have worked in office settings before I was a nurse and I can assure you this wasn't normal behavior.

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Like I said, I feel bad for you or anyone else then. I don't use these terms but its a common southern hospitality kind of thing. Babe, honey and bubba is a very, very common term thrown around in the South. Nothing sexual or demeaning about those terms. Work with rough necks like I did in college and you would go home crying by what you would hear. It must suck to live in a shell.

Did you happen to ask if she was doing her Keagle's yesterday?