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meauxjeaux2
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watson
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greiving the loss of someone you love

I don't think I'm doing it right.
My Maw Maws liver has shut down and she'll be gone within the next two weeks or so but I find myself unable to cry. She's pretty much my favorite person ever. Old school cajun French from Raceland and she's most awesome person ever.
I know she's going and I don't want her to go but I'm acting like its no big deal.
is wrong with me? I'm biggest a-holes ever.


genro
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Member since Nov 2011
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re: greiving the loss of someone you love
Pretty common. It'll hit you eventually, and you'll lose it.

ETA: Basically sounds like minimisation, a form of denial
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DollaChoppa
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re: greiving the loss of someone you love
Nah. Prob just emotionally mature.


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Tmacelroy12
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Houston
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re: greiving the loss of someone you love
It hits harder when she's gone and you are at her funeral

That at least is my personal experience


lwlsu96
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re: greiving the loss of someone you love
It'll hit you at some point unfortunately. Sorry in advance


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tigersownall
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Thibodaux
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re: greiving the loss of someone you love
Sorry to hear about your mawmaw. How's your daughter doing after the bite?


Siderophore
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3335 posts

re: greiving the loss of someone you love
If you still don't break down when the cornoner comes (assuming she is released to home hospice), then you are officially a heartless bastard.


meauxjeaux2
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watson
Member since Oct 2007
50331 posts

re: greiving the loss of someone you love
I just figured I'd take the news of the certainty of her going much harder.
I cry like a little bitch seeing other people cry at a funeral. I know I'll break down at the funeral but right now my emotions have me baffled.


Siderophore
LSU Fan
Member since Nov 2010
3335 posts

re: greiving the loss of someone you love
In my experience, any event with associations of finality are the tear jerkers.

Coroner coming, casket closing, first shovel of dirt, etc


Cholo
LSU Fan
National City, CA
Member since Oct 2012
1076 posts

re: greiving the loss of someone you love
I think when people are old you don't want them to suffer. Both my grandmothers died while I was in basic training. Both times I got called up by a DS and told the news and just went back to my business. Only time it really hit me was a few months later when I'd gone home for a visit.


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Lpmann3
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re: greiving the loss of someone you love
Hey. I am a bereavement counselor for a hospice company and helping people through the grieving process is what I do. Don't worry about what you think you should be doing/feeling. Everybody is different and you cannot compare one grief experience to another. It may hit you tomorrow, at her funeral, or a couple weeks after.

The important thing is that you are not trying to hide from difficult emotions. The time will come when you grieve. It can be a long and very difficult process. Just be willing to go through it even though it is hard rather than trying to avoid the difficult emotions that come along with grief and you will get through it.

There are some great resources at www.griefshare.org You can find anything from simple resources there to grief groups.

I would encourage you to just enjoy the time you have and worry about grief when it hits you...and there will be no mistaking when that happens.


meauxjeaux2
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watson
Member since Oct 2007
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re: greiving the loss of someone you love
quote:

. How's your daughter doing after the bite?
just got home from a surgeon with her. It could be better.


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Lpmann3
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Member since Dec 2012
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re: greiving the loss of someone you love
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If you still don't break down when the cornoner comes (assuming she is released to home hospice), then you are officially a heartless bastard.


Don't listen to Jack asses like this either. Remember...EVERYBODY GRIEVES DIFFERENTLY!!!!!!!


genro
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Member since Nov 2011
35891 posts

re: greiving the loss of someone you love
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I just figured I'd take the news of the certainty of her going much harder.
I cry like a little bitch seeing other people cry at a funeral. I know I'll break down at the funeral but right now my emotions have me baffled.
You're fine, dude. As long as you're not hurting other people or yourself, there's really no wrong way to grieve.


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dukke v
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re: greiving the loss of someone you love
Sorry to hear man. Prayers sent.


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Siderophore
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Member since Nov 2010
3335 posts

re: greiving the loss of someone you love
I was being facetious.

Playing off of the implied concern of not caring.

If he really was coming to the OT for primary support...
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meauxjeaux2
Boise State Fan
watson
Member since Oct 2007
50331 posts

re: greiving the loss of someone you love
I'm not looking for support,I'm concerned about not reacting to the news I just got like I thought I would and wad just wondering if anyone else had had this happen.


Chaz95
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re: greiving the loss of someone you love
"damn Damn DAMN!!!" -Florida Evans


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Cholo
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National City, CA
Member since Oct 2012
1076 posts

re: greiving the loss of someone you love
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I'm not looking for support,I'm concerned about not reacting to the news I just got like I thought I would and wad just wondering if anyone else had had this happen.


Yeah you're fine. To quote Old School: That's what old people do, they die. I think we mentally start preparing for their deaths long before they happen.


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Siderophore
LSU Fan
Member since Nov 2010
3335 posts

re: greiving the loss of someone you love
I know....I was mostly talking to the bereavement consoler who apparently takes his work home.




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