re: Ever wanted it to just all go away?

Ted, my email is (deleted to remove personal info, hope Ted got help). Nothing can ever make up for your loss. Depending on where you live, may not be able to meet you in person, but I need a friend too and would like you to contact me.

I got him. I fricking got him. Me and Jameson and a cigar and a bullshite code that I believe in even if most people don't. I got you.

Sounds like you need to get tf out of alabama baw.

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buried two of my sons.

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I have zero clue how you feel. But i do know there is a reason you are still here. You have to find that reason. Someone, somehwere.. needs you, and is depending on you. Stay strong, keep pushing man. black_lab_bird_dog@yahoo is my email. Feel free to mail me, we can exchange numbers and talk. I will keep you in my prayers man.

Hope it gets right for you. Life can be pretty damn exhausting, even if you're not experiencing great tragedy, and it sounds like you have had plenty.

Find a good drink or good book/movie or something to get your little bit of happiness.

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I've buried two of my sons.

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I have a son and cannot imagine your loss. I have no words to lessen such grief.

Other people still need you. Don't give up, Ted.

Ted, I hope you are reading this. Don't give in to despair or impulsive thoughts. If you are seriously thinking about checking out of life, tell someone close to you ASAP. Call for help. Suicide is the most traumatic way to leave your loved ones behind. Make the call.

I know it's hard to find people who you think can truly empathize with you when you feel like that, I know exactly how that feels my friend.

I've never had kids. So I'll never understand your struggle. My greatest fear is burying my father, my parents are divorced, he got custody, older siblings moved out for different reasons/struggles, but he was the only person throughout my life that's always there, always constant.

If your relationship with your kids was anything like I had with my dad, then I'd be devastated as your son that I couldn't have just one more conversation to tell you how much your LIFE means to me before I passed and how your life is now a part and extension of my life.

Depression sucks my friend, I know from my experience, but celebrate the people that mean the most to you. Post again Ted2010, I'll post contact info if you want to talk bro.

I buried my first son 15years ago. He was extremely premature beat the odds and lived for a week but he caught a candidis infection . The infection spread through his whole body in no time. Even though the wife and I have had three more kids we still have a lot of problems with coping with his death. Holidays, birthdays have always been bitter sweet. The pain has only gotten worse with time.

We both have thought about ending it. I've personally tried to kill the pain with drugs. My wife doesn't show much love towards our kids. I'm pretty much mom and dad to them. She even admits that. We have many emotional problems but everyday we try to get better.

The biggest thing that helps me cope is to try to live right in honor of him. I raise my kids with him in mind. I fight my chemical addictions by telling myself he would not like to know his dad tries to kill the pain of his death in that way. I will have to fight this all my life.

Do not give up. Your kids would not want you to do that because of their deaths. Honor them in living as right as you can. It won't ever stop hurting that is a given.

Eta. I also have came here in ttimes of desperation and received some good advice. frick the haters. Link to my personal thread about my son

Jesus Christ dude