Does your wife "want" to work?

I never hear the end of it from my wife about how I "held her back." I grew up in a traditional household with a stay-at-home mom. Always wanted to provide the same for my family, and being a dentist, I afforded my wife the opportunity to stay at home. When we married 19 years ago, we both had kids around 3 years old, then a few years later had one of our own, who is now 14. Before we had a kid together, I made it clear that I only wanted another kid if she was going to stay home and raise him - I was never a fan of having your kids raised by other people in daycare. It was a mutual decision at the time. However, since then I constantly get shite about how I "wouldn't let her work." WTF? For me, life is about raising a family. I only worked to earn money to provide for my family. She has an associates degree from a community college, so any work she does would generally be clerical. How does one consider filing papers, typing shite, and answering phones for someone else to be more valuable than raising your own children?