re: When do you know that someone is an alcoholic?

We have a mutual friend and the first time I met him, he referenced his TD handle within the first 5 minutes.

Then he proceeded to strike out with 2 or 3 more girls

you ever think maybe he waters down his drinks?

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Dude drinks a 1/5th of liquor EVERY night

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the evidence is circumstantial at best, before you jump through the loops of intervention

just freaking ask him how much he freaking drinks...

When they name their kid after the King of Beers



Dec 17, 2014 3:42 PM CST
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My older brother,who at the time was a bad drinker,full blown drunk, named his son Chivas,

I'd say he has a problem, and I'd also say that he knows it.

The question that I would be asking if I were you would be "What do we say or do that is going to get him to want to change?"

Because I can't really think of anything you can say or do.

If you make a deal of it, you take the risk of him abandoning you guys as friends. I predict he will choose booze over y'all.

If it were me, I might try to mention it in the form of a question... but he knows a fifth a day isn't normal...

By the way, buying it by the handle would seem more cost effective. That's what my alchoholic friend does.

I've had to deal with this concerning a close relative. Imo, now isn't the time for a full on "intervention," since his drinking hasn't become disruptive. Usually, that is a last resort when people are full blown alcoholics/addicts & won't get help otherwise. However, if what you say is true about how much he drinks, there is no doubt he is dependent to some degree, and odds are will become a full blown alcoholic at some point, not to mention, his health will decline rapidly. If he's drinking that much, chances are, he's already got some liver damage, which usually has no symptoms until the damage is severe. ... My advice would be to contact a local AA/rehab or your own doctor to get the info on "When Do You Know That Someone Is An Alcoholic?" - there are actually questionnaires. ... If his drinking (that much) hasn't already started affecting him negatively, make no mistake - it will. But an all out intervention with friends & family, at this point, is too much, since you haven't even spoken to him about it. I would bring it up casually to him, away from others & just have a one-on- one, first. If he says "it's under control," it is not. Anyone who drinks a fifth a day does not have their drinking under control; they are dependent to some degree & will only get worse.

I had a good friend who I went to hs with, played tennis with (she was state champion singles), water skied with & we were in the same sorority in college. She began drinking more & more when we were in college, but no one really thought much about it since many drank a lot while there. We graduated, she married a doctor, had children, & the entire time was drinking heavily. She became a full blown, hardcore alcoholic, went to rehab several times, but would not/could not stop drinking, even for her 3 young children. ... She died in a hotel room partying at Spring Break with strangers when her liver basically exploded. ... So, yes, you should speak to your friend before things start going down hill - and they will.

He is an alcoholic. It might not be affecting his daily life, but it will. The damage he is doing to his liver is worrisome. If you care about this person, I would try to get him some help. I've been thru a lot of addiction crap the last few months and it is something that should be dealt with sooner than later. Best wishes.

Didn't read the responses, but you know someone is an alcoholic when they have an uncontrollable urge to drink, and they are secretive about it, and would lie, if you ask them. You'll also know they have a problem when they are getting dwi's while doing stuff like running daily errands.