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What's your stance on disciplining kids that aren't yours?
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:50 pm
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:50 pm
Backstory from this past weekend:
I was over at a neighbor's home, celebrating their birthday. One of my other neighbors has a 15 year old boy. I was talking about an important subject with someone, and the boy kept mocking me. I stopped and looked at him, and then I looked at his mother (as to say are you going to do anything about this?). All she did was laugh about it. After him doing it a few more times, I stopped and told him that if I had talked to an adult like he was doing, my parents would have slapped me in the mouth and beat my arse. His mom got pissed and took him and left. His father died a little over a year ago, and she lets him get away with a lot more than she should. For some reason, I feel convicted to be a male example for him and show him how to be a man.
Should I have not tried to correct him? Is it my problem that a generation of disrespectful shitheads are being raised in our country?
I was over at a neighbor's home, celebrating their birthday. One of my other neighbors has a 15 year old boy. I was talking about an important subject with someone, and the boy kept mocking me. I stopped and looked at him, and then I looked at his mother (as to say are you going to do anything about this?). All she did was laugh about it. After him doing it a few more times, I stopped and told him that if I had talked to an adult like he was doing, my parents would have slapped me in the mouth and beat my arse. His mom got pissed and took him and left. His father died a little over a year ago, and she lets him get away with a lot more than she should. For some reason, I feel convicted to be a male example for him and show him how to be a man.
Should I have not tried to correct him? Is it my problem that a generation of disrespectful shitheads are being raised in our country?
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Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:52 pm to jvilletiger25
What a little shithead.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:52 pm to jvilletiger25
Beaten with impunity.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:52 pm to jvilletiger25
Don't leave any bruises.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:53 pm to jvilletiger25
Asking for trouble IMO.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:53 pm to jvilletiger25
Other people's kids- I'm against it.
Other people's shitty teenagers who are just being assholes for the sake of being an a-hole- go for it.
Other people's shitty teenagers who are just being assholes for the sake of being an a-hole- go for it.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:53 pm to jvilletiger25
So you disciplined someone else's child in their own home?
Ballsy move.
Ballsy move.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:53 pm to jvilletiger25
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Is it my problem that a generation of disrespectful shitheads are being raised in our country?
Why the frick did you have to put this shite in your post? Now this will be a not her dumbass generation thread instead of a disciplining other children thread.
And no, you didn't do anything wrong. Sorry his dad died but that doesn't give the mother a license to he a shitty parent.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:54 pm to fr33manator
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Don't leave any bruises.
I'm talking about verbally correcting. I would never lay hands or spank someone else's child.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:54 pm to jvilletiger25
You handled it just fine.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:55 pm to LNCHBOX
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Asking for trouble IMO.
This. Remove yourself from said shite kid and more importantly his shite mom. Even if they are relatives.
This post was edited on 8/10/15 at 12:57 pm
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:55 pm to jvilletiger25
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Is it my problem that a generation of disrespectful shitheads are being raised in our country?
It's everybody's problem. Mom needs to find herself a man to help raise the kid.
This post was edited on 8/10/15 at 12:57 pm
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:55 pm to jvilletiger25
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Should I have not tried to correct him?
I'm torn - my instincts would have been similar, but I tread lightly in someone else's home. I might have taken the mother aside before I said something public, or the homeowner and suggest something about the behavior. As it is, you kind of jacked up the mom as much as the kid - and because you being the outsider, they'll bond together against you and nothing will be learned.
In my own home? no question I would have likely asked him, sternly, to knock it off or that I would have to ask him to leave. But, I feel you flirted with a line there in disrespecting the host's authority as well as eliminating a possible teaching moment with the mother - taking her aside and then giving her a good clear chance to do the right thing might have been better.
Just my $0.02.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:55 pm to jvilletiger25
I will yell at other kids. I don't care. Parents don't parent any more. Kids need a good whooping these days but most parents are too skeerd
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:56 pm to jvilletiger25
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What's your stance on disciplining kids that aren't yours?
This is such a tricky question since there’s so many stances out there and yet many of them will work pretty well in different ways. The idea behind the “perfect” stance is there is no one particular stance but rather it is one that maximizes your strengths while minimizes your weaknesses as much as possible. The perfect stance will be one that is suited to your style, your skills, and your abilities and it may not be the same as someone else. But if the kid is not expecting it, stance really shouldn't matter. Just point to a stain on his shirt and when he looks down poleaxe the son a bitch right in the nose.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:56 pm to jvilletiger25
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I was talking about an important subject with someone, and the boy kept mocking me
What was so important that you were discussing it openly in public. And what way was he mocking you?
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:56 pm to jvilletiger25
I used to get spankings all the time at my Mom's best friend's house. I would go over there to stay the night with my friend and her Mom would put us to work bleaching baseboards and all sorts of stuff.
ETA: I wouldn't spank or discipline someone else's child. I don't even really get onto my nieces.
ETA: I wouldn't spank or discipline someone else's child. I don't even really get onto my nieces.
This post was edited on 8/10/15 at 12:58 pm
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:57 pm to jvilletiger25
quote:
I was talking about an important subject with someone, and the boy kept mocking me.
What was the subject you deem important and how was he mocking you?
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:59 pm to jvilletiger25
Hmmm. It isn't your place to discipline her child. All you can really do is inform his mother that it is an issue. If she refuses to recognize it you can continue to try to impress it upon her, or you can cut ties. I don't know your relationship with these people.
Eta: I would tell the kid he's being an a-hole just like I would an adult. I don't really consider that disciplining.
Eta: I would tell the kid he's being an a-hole just like I would an adult. I don't really consider that disciplining.
This post was edited on 8/10/15 at 1:02 pm
Posted on 8/10/15 at 12:59 pm to jvilletiger25
Depends on how hot the mom is.
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