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re: What's your stance on disciplining kids that aren't yours?
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:00 pm to NOFOX
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:00 pm to NOFOX
That is the problem with this country now, it might be a better place if kids knew they could get their arse spanked at any minute by an authority figure. Unfortunetly now you would probably get sued by the parent for doing it.
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Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:00 pm to jvilletiger25
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I'm talking about verbally correcting. I would never lay hands or spank someone else's child.
Smacking them around with a sock full of gerbils lets them know you mean business. And it's fun when they squeak.
Don't ask why I keep so many gerbils around.
This post was edited on 8/10/15 at 1:01 pm
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:01 pm to rantfan
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It's everybody's problem. Mom needs to find herself a man to hel raise the kid.
Or she could actually parent herself.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:01 pm to jvilletiger25
You did the right thing honestly. The fact that he was fricking with you gives you the right to say something about it. Now if he was doing something stupid, not involving you, around his mother, it would be more questionable for you to say something.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:02 pm to jvilletiger25
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What's your stance on disciplining kids that aren't yours?
Sounds kinky, whatever floats your boat.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:02 pm to Kingwood Tiger
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That is the problem with this country now, it might be a better place if kids knew they could get their arse spanked at any minute by an authority figure.
Yeah, but there are some crazy mofos out there that don't care about the consequences. I'm afraid his mouth is gonna get him seriously hurt one day.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:04 pm to jvilletiger25
As a general rule, I think that it is appropriate to let parents do the disciplining. I see children acting up all the time in public while their parents just sit and watch, and while I think that the parents are doing a poor job in that instance (and maybe in general) I usually don't think that it is appropriate for me to butt in.
It is a different thing, though, when a child is misbehaving in a way to hurt or insult another person. If a child does something to another person, then it is appropriate for that person (or the parent, if the other person is a child) to tell the offending child to back off if the parents of the offending child won't do anything.
In this specific case this 15-year old kid was being insulting and disrespectful to you. It appears that the mother didn't see it that way or, alternatively, saw that the 15-year old was insulting and disrespectful but didn't care enough to correct the misbehavior. In this case it is perfectly appropriate for an adult in that situation to tell the 15-year old to behave himself. I understand the philosophy of being compassionate to a teenage who has lost his father, but there a gentle ways in which the mother could have reined in her son without the situation escalating as it did.
It is a different thing, though, when a child is misbehaving in a way to hurt or insult another person. If a child does something to another person, then it is appropriate for that person (or the parent, if the other person is a child) to tell the offending child to back off if the parents of the offending child won't do anything.
In this specific case this 15-year old kid was being insulting and disrespectful to you. It appears that the mother didn't see it that way or, alternatively, saw that the 15-year old was insulting and disrespectful but didn't care enough to correct the misbehavior. In this case it is perfectly appropriate for an adult in that situation to tell the 15-year old to behave himself. I understand the philosophy of being compassionate to a teenage who has lost his father, but there a gentle ways in which the mother could have reined in her son without the situation escalating as it did.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:06 pm to jvilletiger25
You should have done the whole "Back in my day my daddy would've whipped my arse if I talked like that."
1. His dad is dead and you know that so you shouldn't have brought up how your dad raised you.
2. Nobody responds well to the generational thing, especially teenagers.
You should have said.
"Excuse me Bill, it's disrespectful to speak like that to an adult during an adult conversation and you're old enough to know that by now. I know your mother didn't raise you that way."
1. His dad is dead and you know that so you shouldn't have brought up how your dad raised you.
2. Nobody responds well to the generational thing, especially teenagers.
You should have said.
"Excuse me Bill, it's disrespectful to speak like that to an adult during an adult conversation and you're old enough to know that by now. I know your mother didn't raise you that way."
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:06 pm to LSUballs
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This is such a tricky question since there’s so many stances out there and yet many of them will work pretty well in different ways. The idea behind the “perfect” stance is there is no one particular stance but rather it is one that maximizes your strengths while minimizes your weaknesses as much as possible. The perfect stance will be one that is suited to your style, your skills, and your abilities and it may not be the same as someone else. But if the kid is not expecting it, stance really shouldn't matter. Just point to a stain on his shirt and when he looks down poleaxe the son a bitch right in the nose.
definitely the best response. Do this next time.Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:07 pm to jvilletiger25
I'd tell a dipshit 15 year old that he was being an a-hole in front of his parents without giving it a second thought.
It's not like he is a toddler. If he's old enough to talk shite to an adult, he's old enough to get put in his place.
It's not like he is a toddler. If he's old enough to talk shite to an adult, he's old enough to get put in his place.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:07 pm to Ace Midnight
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I feel you flirted with a line there in disrespecting the host's authority as well as eliminating a possible teaching moment with the mother
It seems some people in this believe the shithead teen and mother were hosting the OP in their home- I read h is post to mean they were all at a third neighbor's home and all three- OP, shithead, and mom- were guests of another neighbor. Thus the mom leaving with her shithead.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:10 pm to jvilletiger25
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and show him how to be a man.
how exactly are you going to go about this?
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:11 pm to jvilletiger25
naw man, you did right
the mother is just gonna let that child run wild.
glad you said something.
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you have nothing to apologize for
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as for myself, I let the spirit move me.
like I was in line at costco, and there was a child right behid me, who was screaming. I just turned around and looked him in the eye...didn't say a word. he shut up.
the mother is just gonna let that child run wild.
glad you said something.
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you have nothing to apologize for
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as for myself, I let the spirit move me.
like I was in line at costco, and there was a child right behid me, who was screaming. I just turned around and looked him in the eye...didn't say a word. he shut up.
This post was edited on 8/10/15 at 1:16 pm
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:12 pm to jvilletiger25
Sounds to me like you did the kid a favor. Hopefully this has taught him a little about respect.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:12 pm to jvilletiger25
Thumbs up to you. You probably did him a favor. A short fused young man might beat his arse or rough him up a little not knowing he's 15. You don't mock a man unless you're ready for the consequences.(clearly he needs to understand this)
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:13 pm to jvilletiger25
Its fine if the kid deserves it and the other person does it in a respectful manner.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:15 pm to jvilletiger25
You dogged the mom out, not really the kid.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:17 pm to jvilletiger25
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What's your stance on disciplining kids that aren't yours?
I wouldn't be passive aggressive about it by saying stuff like this
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I stopped and told him that if I had talked to an adult like he was doing, my parents would have slapped me in the mouth and beat my arse
If I had an issue with it, I'd likely say something to the effect like, "Look, I know I'm not your parent but you need to stop mocking me. It's rude and I'm sure you wouldn't like it if someone else did it to you." Then, I'd likely tell the mom what happened and how I reacted.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:17 pm to TigerPox
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ETA: I wouldn't spank or discipline someone else's child. I don't even really get onto my nieces.
You shouldn't get into them at all. That's just sick.
Posted on 8/10/15 at 1:17 pm to jvilletiger25
ordinarily, not my job. however, since the kid was directly mocking you, I would have dealt with it. pretty sure you can win a match of wits with a 15 y/o.
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