re: What's the OT's thoughts on couples who raise money to adopt a baby?

It's actually a pretty genius idea. Lots of people will donate because they feel like it is a good cause. Even those that disagree with asking for money for such a thing will either donate or keep their mouth shut because who would say anything about this, publicly?

Not a baby...he was 9. Florida is also paying his college tuition. Like I said when it comes to adopting kids "in the system", Florida has it going on. This beats the shite out of the normal Florida posts

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Florida is also paying his college tuition.

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That is cool, I asked during the adoption about scholarships for adopted children. They told us that the state Alabama doesn't offer this but there were private scholarship funds for adopted children.

I believe Texas does the same as far as college tuition being paid.

I think you would be surprised by the number of people using social media platforms, and stuff like gofundme to raise money for adoptions.

My wife and I considered the international adoption route, and could have financed the 40K it would have cost us to adopt from an asian nation, but then we realized the vast need for foster care help here in the states.

Hopefully we will be ready to start receiving children by the end of the year and it will cost us almost nothing when we find a child to adopt.

Like was said earlier, those paying out the arse are paying for a certain type of kid.

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Like was said earlier, those paying out the arse are paying for a certain type of kid.

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This. An acquaintance adopted a 9 month old baby in New Orleans for the cost of the court papers. He's black and his both his parents are in jail. He's 7 now and an awesome little kid. His single mother is white.

2 friends from college who got married couldn't conceive. Went the adoption route through Catholic Charities. Cost them like $35k when all was said and done. They had to have a white baby.

It disheartens me to read some of these replies. The insensitive responses of a few of the posters goes to prove that they have ZERO knowledge of Louisiana adoptions. I personally am going through the adoption process myself (and currently NOT doing a go fund me campaign). I can certainly see why some couples are choosing to go this route. Adoption costs in Louisiana can be overwhelming ($12,000-60,000). There are MANY couples who would make AMAZING parents but can not financially come up with that amount of money at one time. Yes, going through DCFS is virtually free. But sometimes DCFS is not a viable option for your family (as in our case). First off, you run the risk of loving a child as your own for 364 days and then on that 365th day, the biological parents can suddenly get their life together and take the baby from you. All DCFS children must go through the foster to adopt program for that year before they are eligible for adoption. You also have NO preparation time for these children. If you get a call, you have to make that decision right then and there. Most people are not in the situation where they don't have to make prior arrangements with their employer for maternity/paternity leave for the 6-8 weeks before the child is old enough for daycare. The number of DCFS HEALTHY infants is so low that it can take YEARS before you find that. This is why we are going though private adoption. Yes, it is more expensive. But emotionally, we can not handle raising a child for a year and then he/she is just ripped from our homes. it isn't about "picking and choosing a white baby" as some of you have so eloquently put it. It's about minimizing the risk of heartbreak to your family.
Furthermore, you can't just "get a loan" for adoption that easily, it's not buying a house or a car where every bank has a loan program for it. Have YOU ever tried taking out a $12-60k unsecured loan?? So before you cast your stones of judgment calling this trashy, why not put yourself in someone else's situation --- financially stable couples can quite easily cover every day costs and minor unexpected expenses as have been referred to. But it's not uncommon for someone to be incapable of coming up with $12,000-$60,000 UPFRONT on top of having these every day expenditures that you have to plan for.

Using GoFundMe for stuff like fertility treatments, adoption, etc is just a symptom of the bigger problem, which is the Socialist mindset. This belief that your financial needs are everyone else's responsibility is nonsense.

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First off, you run the risk of loving a child as your own for 364 days and then on that 365th day, the biological parents can suddenly get their life together and take the baby from you

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That would suck big time. At least that child would have proper care, nutrition and love for that first year.

My wife's friend applied in Florida. They will give you a six pack of black babies almost immediately if you want them. She got one, then a second one a year later. They are cute kids that dress and act like little princesses.

They do not know, or care that the "Mom" feeding them, hugging them, band-aiding them, and buying them toys is not biological.