re: So Stay At Home Moms Deserve 113k a year

For some reason my mother-in-law frowns upon the fact that her daughter works. She makes condescending comments about husbands making enough money to support a family.

The thing is that my wife fears being like her mom, since the woman is completely in the dark when it comes to finances and has zero control over her life. My MIL isn't allowed to spend money on anything unless the husband approves of it (he is cheap). She isn't even allowed to access the bank account or credit cards.

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Stay at home moms are a bunch of losers. I know enough moms with real jobs to know that being nothing but a stay at home mom is a joke, and it's reinforced by all the stay at home moms who have time to blog and watch every show under the sun and spend several hours a day on Facebook complaining about their lives.

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Your an idiot.

Staying at home raising your kids is the mothers job. Not running around trying to be a man. Men earn and women take care of the house and family. My wife quit teaching to raise my children. They are simply amazing. She is amazing and a fricking hard job it is.

Women's lib movement is fricking overrated. They are making it seem as If women are no one unless they are out making that money. Well frick that. My wife is amazing and she doesn't need a "real" job to give her a sense of value.

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50's white middle class suburban humdrum?

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You know what?

frick you.

"White" is thrown in there like it is some sort of slur.

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Until the kids are in school, it is a lot of work staying at home and raising the kids. That is especially the case with several boys under the age of 5. They will turn the house upside down into a complete mess - toys all over the place, legos spread about, puzzle pieces, and their clothes everywhere. That is a time consuming task to clean up and monitor. A lot of the difficulty depends on how active the kids are. Ours are relentless and did not nap. I have a stressful job and it was much easier to go to work than it is to stay at home all day and keep raise, watch, feed and clean up after the kids. Work is a piece of cake compared to staying at home. No brainer.

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In college, a small group of us had to clean up an entire fraternity house - a fricking mansion...week after week in under a hour. Broken glass, split beer and liquor, vomit, goo, God know what else...don't give me that shite. If you really...really roll up your sleeves, it'll take an hour or so. Some fricking clothes and legos and stupid, dumbass puzzle pieces...give me a f*cking break. : It takes 20 freaking minutes if your truly bust you arse. And your wives better be making gourmet meals the way you all talk about their "cooking". If they're popping in DiGiorno or Tyson chicken strips and easy mac, I would be pissed the hell off.

I straighten, but don't clean unless I have to. We have a 6000 ft2 house. It is a lot to keep up with.

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How many kids do you have?

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I'm a military man. You aren't going to impress me by taking a full day to raise a couple of kids or clean up their mess. What takes you a day, takes us 10 minutes.

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I'm a military man. You aren't going to impress me by taking a full day to raise a couple of kids or clean up their mess. What takes you a day, takes us 10 minutes.

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Haha

I was in a fraternity as well. We had to do the same things you describe. Compared to raising kids? Can't believe that was your example.

Glad you're a military man as well.

But I have a family members in the military with kids so I know their perspective on the difficulty of being a stay at home parent with several young ones. So your statement won't impress me if you haven't experienced the difficulty of raising 3 kids under the age of 5, every minute of every day, from 6am when they wake up until 8pm when they go to sleep. In between those 14 hours is 25 little fights or tantrums among them, 5 accidents ranging from diaper issues, smearing poo on the walls, to something breaking, feeding them, changing them, cleaning up after them and then re-cleaning up after they remake the mess, taking them to the doctor because 1 of them is inevitably sick. A lot of times, all of that happens in 1 day. Some days are better than others. Doing all of that mostly alone, without the help of a nanny, every single day without a break is an incredibly tiring job because it is nonstop.

Look, I had the same perspective before I had kids. How hard can it be? Well, there is a reason so many parents say it is the hardest, but most rewarding part of their lives.

Like I said, I have a stressful job. But going to work is a charm compared to staying at home 5 days a week with 3 little animals. My wife, who has a MBA and was an accomplished professional before kids, would say the same without hesitation.

Wouldn't have it any other way. There's never a dull moment and overall it sure is fun.