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re: Recent conversation trouble
Posted on 10/29/16 at 9:55 am to Spankum
Posted on 10/29/16 at 9:55 am to Spankum
For example, Ole Miss game day, which I usually love to tailgate and have been doing so since I was like 5 because my mom has season tickets. I was tailgate and I wanted so badly to avoid conversation that I left with my girlfriend to go to her apt and passed out on the couch because of a half of a xanax and a couple brews and woke up at 3 went back to campus had a couple meaningless conversations and went in the stadium. Am I just being a huge fricking pussy or does anyone think I may really do have social anxiety which I'm definitely in denial of right now. Lol
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Posted on 10/29/16 at 9:57 am to i10Duck
I don't have a specific doctor. Still on my step dads insurance and I hate talking to the dick so I completely avoid going and just work through being sick.
Posted on 10/29/16 at 10:02 am to KRobinson
sounds to me like you are overanalyzing the shite out of this...and yes, you do have some social anxiety or you wouldn't have taken the time to post about it.
I would say that you need to quit getting fricked up on Xanax and beer or you will find yourself with some dependencies that will be hard to deal with.
check up with your doctor, as there may be something really easy to fix that.
I would say that you need to quit getting fricked up on Xanax and beer or you will find yourself with some dependencies that will be hard to deal with.
check up with your doctor, as there may be something really easy to fix that.
Posted on 10/29/16 at 10:05 am to Spankum
I don't do this often. Like I said earlier. I hate taking xanax because of the next day side affects.
ETA: I'm not just gunna go tailgating and not drink some kind of alcohol because after all I am from south Louisiana
ETA: I'm not just gunna go tailgating and not drink some kind of alcohol because after all I am from south Louisiana
This post was edited on 10/29/16 at 10:06 am
Posted on 10/29/16 at 10:23 am to KRobinson
I see no problem with having a few drinks (or more than a few) when tailgating, because it only happens several times per year. 
Posted on 10/29/16 at 10:27 am to KRobinson
It's social anxiety.. Get some damned confidence about yourself.
Posted on 10/29/16 at 10:31 am to Spankum
Sorry guys I know I'm harping the shite out of this but I just used to be the loud fun party goer and now I'm the awkward frick that my friends have to pull teeth to get to speak. Its driving me up the wall mentally. just wondering if anyone else goes through this type of thing
Posted on 10/29/16 at 10:33 am to AUbagman
Thanks. Someone needed to tell me. I'd honestly rather a frick you then no reply type of guy and most people are. Sometimes you need to hear what you don't want to.
Posted on 10/29/16 at 10:39 am to KRobinson
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just wondering if anyone else goes through this type of thing
absolutely...it happens to everyone from time to time, but it sounds like you have a double dose right now!
remember, it is not necessary for you to be the center of attention at all times...you just don't want to become a social misfit.
Posted on 10/29/16 at 10:48 am to Spankum
I honestly hate being the center of attention. I'd rather sit in the back and not be bothered but people don't like that
Posted on 10/29/16 at 11:03 am to KRobinson
Whenever there is awkward silence just start taking your pants off. It'll all work itself out after that.
Posted on 10/29/16 at 11:05 am to KRobinson
Sounds like you are an extremely high self-monitorer - which is not a bad thing at ALL, btw - but I suspect you are assuming your friends are bothered by your social behavior much more than they actually are.
To offer specific advice re: blanking mid-conversation, try to employ a few simple active listening techniques. For example, re-phrase something someone just said, and preface it with, "So what you're saying is..." This is especially effective with females as it verifies that you are interested in what they have to say, and with guys, it hints at a solidarity with their POV (and we LoVE being told we are correct, amIrite?)
Active listening draws people in and fosters a sense of security and belonging...it definitely won't piss anyone off. Just don't squander it with a smart-arse comment.
No matter how funny it may sound in your head, NO ONE likes a smart-arse.
And cut yourself some slack...I am constantly having to remind myself that no one is paying that much attn to me, anyway, so wtf am I so worried about...
To offer specific advice re: blanking mid-conversation, try to employ a few simple active listening techniques. For example, re-phrase something someone just said, and preface it with, "So what you're saying is..." This is especially effective with females as it verifies that you are interested in what they have to say, and with guys, it hints at a solidarity with their POV (and we LoVE being told we are correct, amIrite?)
Active listening draws people in and fosters a sense of security and belonging...it definitely won't piss anyone off. Just don't squander it with a smart-arse comment.
No matter how funny it may sound in your head, NO ONE likes a smart-arse.
And cut yourself some slack...I am constantly having to remind myself that no one is paying that much attn to me, anyway, so wtf am I so worried about...
Posted on 10/29/16 at 11:13 am to KRobinson
Oh, forgot to say:
When a man can comfortably admit "I really don't know all that much about that" he has reached a major milestone in maturity level. Why we feel the need to prove our knowledge base to the point of BS (and will probably be called on it) is frigging childish...but we all go thru it.
Instead of sitting in silence, ask for basic info about the speaker's topic. Silence can be interpreted as disinterest, which can be offensive.
When a man can comfortably admit "I really don't know all that much about that" he has reached a major milestone in maturity level. Why we feel the need to prove our knowledge base to the point of BS (and will probably be called on it) is frigging childish...but we all go thru it.
Instead of sitting in silence, ask for basic info about the speaker's topic. Silence can be interpreted as disinterest, which can be offensive.
Posted on 10/29/16 at 11:27 am to 19
very good posts!
Posted on 10/29/16 at 11:36 am to KRobinson
1. don't be such a wuss
2. ask more questions
2. ask more questions
Posted on 10/29/16 at 12:09 pm to KRobinson
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Recent conversation trouble
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Short blurt outs or just plane ole silence.
I think you need to be more concerned with your immediate grammar trouble.
Posted on 10/29/16 at 12:52 pm to KRobinson
I couldn't read all that. Too boring.
Posted on 10/29/16 at 12:52 pm to KRobinson
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Fishing is what I really love but can't afford a boat
Send me an email with your name and address. You don't have to have a boat to go fishing. It helps but not absolutley necessary.
Posted on 10/29/16 at 1:56 pm to td01241
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Depression is nothing to mess around with, SSRIs are shitty useless medicines but benzos are relatively harmless and have a low addiction profile compared to other drugs (as long as you don't take Xanax, or some other less popular benzos that a doctor is unlikely to prescribe).
Just wanted to pop in and say that I think it's cool when non-doctors give incorrect medical advice and are adamant about it. Benzodiazepines are used for anxiety and are much more addictive than SSRIs. Meanwhile, SSRIs are the first-line treatment for major depressive disorder. Lastly, you can't make the diagnosis of depression from the OP, although it may be likely and you certainly can't rule it out.
Posted on 10/29/16 at 2:14 pm to KRobinson
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