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re: Problem with the in-laws
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:27 am to Collegedropout
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:27 am to Collegedropout
quote:as I've already said, you're just young and stupid.
As I've already said, I don't deal with people's shitty attitudes.
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That is what happened. You expect us three to just get along fine after that?
Oh, so you're the drama queen.
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Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:30 am to Red5LSU
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For whatever reason, my sister-in-law to be hates me. See, I'm an introvert and can be very quiet and reserved when I'm around people. But, when I get comfortable with a person, I crack jokes about the person. I never try to be mean, but I guess she saw it as a slight against her. So, the next few times I saw her, I kept to myself and only talked to her when she talked to me. The last time we interacted was at her house. My fiancee and I had been traveling all day and I just wanted to go home, but she wanted to see her sister's new baby. So we went over, and I didn't talk much, just sat in the living room until my fiancee was done visiting with the baby and her sister. The next day, my fiancee gets a text from her sister saying it was disrespectful that I didn't talk that much to her and her husband and that I didn't shake her husband's hand when I entered the house. She also stated that my fiancee should apologize for my actions and if she didn't, my sister-in-law to be wouldn't take part in our wedding. I've been to her house multiple times and this is the first time she mentions the hand shaking thing. And I know my quietness can be seen as disrespectful, but that is just who I am. My fiancee says her sister is a bully and a crappy person and only does these things because she can and probably won't back down from this until she gets her way. Sorry for the long post, but for those that did read it, any advice?
Is this really what adults do? Complain about nothing?
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:31 am to danilo
quote:Welcome to the millennial generation. Scruffy's generation is awful.
Is this really what adults do? Complain about nothing?
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:32 am to Displaced
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If you see him all the time? No need to shake the man's hand every time
I agree. I don't shake my close friends' hands every time I see them, but I see them a few times a month. It would be kinda weird if I shook their hands every time.
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:33 am to Displaced
Why do you insist on keeping relationships with shitty people?
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:35 am to Red5LSU
It would have taken very little effort from you to avoid this. Shake his hand, say hi, tell them the baby is cute, then say you have been driving all day and gonna go lay down for a bit.
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:36 am to Collegedropout
Because you should have absolutely no say in whether or not your girlfriend and her sister have a relationship.
The fact that you would force her to choose between you and her sister makes you a shitty person. The fact that you can't see this makes you stupid.
The fact that you would force her to choose between you and her sister makes you a shitty person. The fact that you can't see this makes you stupid.
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:36 am to Epic Cajun
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I don't shake my close friends' hands every time I see them, but I see them a few times a month. It would be kinda weird if I shook their hands every time.
I shake my friends' hands or fist bump or something every time I see them. Even my close friends. I don't know why that would be considered weird.
ETA: OP, a handshake is a simple gesture of acknowledgement that can go a long way. Especially with weird in-laws. Shake your BIL's hand and drink a freakin beer with him for Christ sake.
This post was edited on 8/2/17 at 8:38 am
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:37 am to Red5LSU
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I'm an introvert
Is this a PC term for being a shy, timid, pussy?
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:38 am to FelicianaTigerfan
quote:
Is this a PC term for being a shy, timid, pussy?
Generally speaking, no. In case of the OP, probably.
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:38 am to Displaced
cool, I'll just break up with her instead than. thanks for the advice, bro.
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:39 am to Red5LSU
I'm pretty introverted and I have Asperger's but that's no excuse not to shake someone's hand when you see them. It took me a long time to learn to shake someone's hand and look them in the eye.
Call them or (better yet) go see them and apologize.
"I didn't realize I offended either of you. I have a hard time socializing and it's something I need to work on. I'm sorry if you thought I was being standoffish, that was never my intention."
And really work on it. Look people in the eye and shake their hand and say "It's nice to meet you." It seems so simple but it's amazing how many people don't do it these days.
Call them or (better yet) go see them and apologize.
"I didn't realize I offended either of you. I have a hard time socializing and it's something I need to work on. I'm sorry if you thought I was being standoffish, that was never my intention."
And really work on it. Look people in the eye and shake their hand and say "It's nice to meet you." It seems so simple but it's amazing how many people don't do it these days.
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:41 am to Displaced
1. a relationship with your sister is one of the only things that really matters.
2. you shouldn't believe your sister when she swears your boyfriend cheated on you, she swears that he admitted it to her, that she talked to the girl, that she saw it happen, and that all her friends saw it happen.
so... which one you gonna pick?
2. you shouldn't believe your sister when she swears your boyfriend cheated on you, she swears that he admitted it to her, that she talked to the girl, that she saw it happen, and that all her friends saw it happen.
so... which one you gonna pick?
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:41 am to Paddyshack
fist bumps are for the gays
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:42 am to Collegedropout
quote:
cool, I'll just break up with her instead than. thanks for the advice, bro.
Like I said, you're stupid.
And please do break up with her. She probably deserves better than you.
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:42 am to Paddyshack
A quick Google search gave me this:
LINK
Basically, "everyone has to treat me with kids gloves and allow me to determine pacing of interactions because I find it relaxing to be alone!!! My preferences in life make me special and must be respected!!!!"
Eta Dammit, can't put up pics on new phone cause I'm dumb.
LINK
Basically, "everyone has to treat me with kids gloves and allow me to determine pacing of interactions because I find it relaxing to be alone!!! My preferences in life make me special and must be respected!!!!"
Eta Dammit, can't put up pics on new phone cause I'm dumb.
This post was edited on 8/2/17 at 8:45 am
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:43 am to Displaced
I already did
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:43 am to Collegedropout
I pick #1.
She can be pissed and fight with her sister, but you made her cut her sister out of her life. That's fricked up.
She can be pissed and fight with her sister, but you made her cut her sister out of her life. That's fricked up.
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:44 am to Red5LSU
Next time shake his hand and say Hi to everyone you are visiting. Stay in the same room as everyone else even if you don't say much. Say a comment or two. It does not have to be much. I really don't have much in common with my inlaws since they are not into sports or the outdoors. But I do the above and I never have an issue.
This post was edited on 8/2/17 at 8:53 am
Posted on 8/2/17 at 8:44 am to Red5LSU
Sister's are always jealous of the other's boyfriend/husband etc etc Sibling Rivalry Baw
It will only get worse once you have kids
get out now
It will only get worse once you have kids
get out now
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