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Opinion on an out of state wedding that requires a flight and a hotel
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:56 pm
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:56 pm
So like I just want an opinion on this because I'm not sure and have gotten about half and half on the opinions.
I am going to be a bride's maid for a best friend that moved to Maine last December. Obviously it's too far to drive so I have to fly up there and get a hotel the night before and the night after. I also have to get my dress and shoes and a gift.
Is it common for the bride or groom to pay for the bridal party's airfare and/or hotel if they ask you to be in a wedding way far away? Between the flight, hotel, dress, shoes and a gift, I'm looking at $1,600 for THEIR wedding. I was fairly certain they were going to do it down here, but now they have decided to do it there.
What are your opinions? And don't tell me I should have just declined to be in it because that's not an option.
I am going to be a bride's maid for a best friend that moved to Maine last December. Obviously it's too far to drive so I have to fly up there and get a hotel the night before and the night after. I also have to get my dress and shoes and a gift.
Is it common for the bride or groom to pay for the bridal party's airfare and/or hotel if they ask you to be in a wedding way far away? Between the flight, hotel, dress, shoes and a gift, I'm looking at $1,600 for THEIR wedding. I was fairly certain they were going to do it down here, but now they have decided to do it there.
What are your opinions? And don't tell me I should have just declined to be in it because that's not an option.
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Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:56 pm to HeatherC
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Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:57 pm to HeatherC
Just dropped $2000 on friends wedding - she didn't pay for hair, makeup, hotel, dress OR flight. But got rocking pair of cowboy boots! Ugh!
Other weddings (out of state), I've had one night of hotel paid for or hair/makeup.
Other weddings (out of state), I've had one night of hotel paid for or hair/makeup.
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:57 pm to HeatherC
You could have always said no.
Pay for your shite.
Pay for your shite.
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:57 pm to HeatherC
quote:No. Hotel, maybe.
Is it common for the bride or groom to pay for the bridal party's airfare and/or hotel if they ask you to be in a wedding way far away?
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:57 pm to HeatherC
Either decline or pay. 
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:57 pm to HeatherC
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So like
did you tilt your head when you typed this?
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I was fairly certain they were going to do it down here, but now they have decided to do it there.
why did it move?
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:58 pm to HeatherC
I think you asked the wrong site.
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:58 pm to redneck
Not common. You're on your own, sista.
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:58 pm to HeatherC
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Is it common for the bride or groom to pay for the bridal party's airfare and/or hotel if they ask you to be in a wedding way far away?
No. My wife was a bridesmaid in a billionaire's wedding in Monaco and nothing was offered to us for lodging or flight. They are legitimately billionaires and didn't offer.
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:58 pm to HeatherC
I wouldn't expect any of that to be paid for. They have enough shite to pay for and weddings today are expensive as hell.
If you don't have the money, it's ok to just tell them no.
If you don't have the money, it's ok to just tell them no.
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:58 pm to HeatherC
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Is it common for the bride or groom to pay for the bridal party's airfare and/or hotel if they ask you to be in a wedding way far away?
Hotel yes, airfare, no
I think it's cheap to ask that of someone and not pay for the hotel
This post was edited on 12/19/14 at 1:00 pm
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:58 pm to CurDog
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did you tilt your head when you typed this?
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:58 pm to HeatherC
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So like I just want an opinion on this because I'm not sure and have gotten about half and half on the opinions.
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HeatherC
Are you 16 or just type/speak like one?
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:58 pm to HeatherC
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Is it common for the bride or groom to pay for the bridal party's airfare and/or hotel if they ask you to be in a wedding way far away?
I don't think its common.
I've dropped over $1k on a friends wedding before. I wasn't happy about that, but I had a blast.
Why not make it a mini vacation and stay longer?
This post was edited on 12/19/14 at 1:00 pm
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:59 pm to HeatherC
They should cover the hotel but the rest should be on you.
Posted on 12/19/14 at 12:59 pm to redneck
I was in five weddings two years ago and four were destination weddings.
I don't want to hear it.
I don't want to hear it.
Posted on 12/19/14 at 1:01 pm to HeatherC
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Is it common for the bride or groom to pay for the bridal party's airfare and/or hotel if they ask you to be in a wedding way far away?
No. If the finances are an issue, you should decline to be in the wedding.
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And don't tell me I should have just declined to be in it because that's not an option.
It is absolutely an option if you can't afford to be in the wedding.
Posted on 12/19/14 at 1:01 pm to HeatherC
We had a destination wedding.
We gave people TWO YEARS notice, set them up with payment plans with an agent, got discounted flights for a group rate, and all that. We paid for their groomsmen and bridesmaid stuff but not the flights/hotels etc.
We told them that if they can't make it we would completely understand. My own brother couldn't do it.
But everyone who came (and we actually had a lot) had the time of their lives.
We tried to be as accomodating as possible, but it was our wedding. It was what we wanted. No one had to come. But they did and we appreciated it.
We gave people TWO YEARS notice, set them up with payment plans with an agent, got discounted flights for a group rate, and all that. We paid for their groomsmen and bridesmaid stuff but not the flights/hotels etc.
We told them that if they can't make it we would completely understand. My own brother couldn't do it.
But everyone who came (and we actually had a lot) had the time of their lives.
We tried to be as accomodating as possible, but it was our wedding. It was what we wanted. No one had to come. But they did and we appreciated it.
Posted on 12/19/14 at 1:01 pm to HeatherC
In my experience, you usually pay your own way.
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