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re: How long after your divorce (if ever) did you decide...
Posted on 3/9/16 at 12:25 pm to jvilletiger25
Posted on 3/9/16 at 12:25 pm to jvilletiger25
My current wife (of 18 years) testified on my behalf that I had not lived with, or slept with, my ex-wife (of 24 years), during our mandatory separation, at my final divorce hearing.
But I knocked out so much poon the first 46 years of my life, before I started with the eventual second wife ... so it all depends on when you meet the right next wife I think.
We were married a few weeks after the divorce was final.
But I knocked out so much poon the first 46 years of my life, before I started with the eventual second wife ... so it all depends on when you meet the right next wife I think.
We were married a few weeks after the divorce was final.
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Posted on 3/9/16 at 12:32 pm to scrooster
I swore to myself I'd never commit myself like that again after being with my 1st wife for 22 years (17 married).
A year and a half after the divorce I accidentally ran into someone that I had worked with prior to my divorce and asked her to dinner. Three dates later I knew I'd marry her if she'd have me. We were married a year after that and we're both happier than we've ever been and can't stand to be apart. Yeah, I know that doesn't play well to you OT ballers but when your wife is that much fun to be around you don't want to be away from her.
My advice, work on the things you know you could have done differently in your first go around so if the opportunity ever presents itself again you won't make the same mistakes twice. You'll know when it's time.
A year and a half after the divorce I accidentally ran into someone that I had worked with prior to my divorce and asked her to dinner. Three dates later I knew I'd marry her if she'd have me. We were married a year after that and we're both happier than we've ever been and can't stand to be apart. Yeah, I know that doesn't play well to you OT ballers but when your wife is that much fun to be around you don't want to be away from her.
My advice, work on the things you know you could have done differently in your first go around so if the opportunity ever presents itself again you won't make the same mistakes twice. You'll know when it's time.
Posted on 3/9/16 at 12:33 pm to bamarep
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I accidentally ran into someone that I had worked with prior to my divorce and asked her to dinner. Three dates later I knew I'd marry her if she'd have me
how much older are you than your wife?
Posted on 3/9/16 at 12:38 pm to Kujo
I'm ten years older than my second wife and I honestly think that makes a huge difference.
Women want stability and security.
I also met my second wife just when she was hitting her sexual peak in her 30s ... and it lasted well into her 40s.
My first wife and I had to suffer through being poor when we were young, dealing with little kids, etc., etc. Men should not marry young these days. 40ish is plenty young, marry a woman younger ... be established and on strong financial footing and over the prowling years and I think it has a much better chance for success.
It takes awhile to learn how to live with a woman.
Women want stability and security.
I also met my second wife just when she was hitting her sexual peak in her 30s ... and it lasted well into her 40s.
My first wife and I had to suffer through being poor when we were young, dealing with little kids, etc., etc. Men should not marry young these days. 40ish is plenty young, marry a woman younger ... be established and on strong financial footing and over the prowling years and I think it has a much better chance for success.
It takes awhile to learn how to live with a woman.
Posted on 3/9/16 at 12:43 pm to ithad2bme
If you don't have kids that you need help with then I see no reason to ever again get married.
Posted on 3/9/16 at 12:44 pm to scrooster
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I'm ten years older than my second wife and I honestly think that makes a huge difference.
It does, you cherish it. Her youth is a reward that a woman your age can not match.
Posted on 3/9/16 at 12:46 pm to bamarep
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My advice, work on the things you know you could have done differently in your first go around so if the opportunity ever presents itself again you won't make the same mistakes twice.
The caveat is that you also need to know that some things are beyond your realm of control. Usually, divorces are the result of whatever BOTH parties have done to the other. No one is completely faultless. Also, if the other party is not interested in making the relationship work, there's not a damned thing you can do about it.
Many things can make a divorce happen. The marital relationship is almost like a third entity that two individuals have created and committed to. It's bigger than either. Sometimes outside pressures are too much for the marriage to survive. Sometimes, the spouses have grown too far apart to make things work. Sometimes one or both realize that they simply made a mistake marrying the other. I could go on, but it would be a long list. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed the first 20 of our 27 years. The defendant wanted something else in life. I had to maintain my career as I was responsible for two children, who I loved and continue to love dearly, along with a spouse who would not hold up her end of the finances, nor take care of the house or kids. She decided she wanted a different life. When all was said and done, there was some shite in her upbringing that simply was not resolved. As much as I tried, I couldn't put my finger on the specific problem. It actually took a former in-law to point it out. Even if I had known earlier, I am not sure there was a lot I could have done. She was resistant to the idea of counseling.
After she left, the kids and I regrouped and tried to move on. We did (I had to finish raising them on my own), but not without considerable emotional damage.
For those who are happily married, you have my admiration.
Posted on 3/9/16 at 12:50 pm to jvilletiger25
If you have to ask, it's probably too soon
Posted on 3/9/16 at 12:51 pm to jvilletiger25
That's a lot of poon man. Any good poon stories you'd like to share?
Posted on 3/9/16 at 12:52 pm to jvilletiger25
Don't rush into anything. You'll know when you meet the right person.
Posted on 3/9/16 at 1:00 pm to jvilletiger25
I've been divorced over 4 years now. I have no intentions of getting married anytime soon. It's pretty nice not being married. I'm not saying I'll never do it, but there is definitely no hurry. I have everything the way I want it. I just see no need to lock myself in.
This post was edited on 3/9/16 at 1:04 pm
Posted on 3/9/16 at 1:01 pm to jvilletiger25
It's been about four months since my divorce became official and seven months since we separated. I can't see myself settling down and getting serious for a while. So far I've been dating/hooking up with women without a care for whether they could be a long-term partner, but I am getting to the point where it's becoming more important to me to spend my time with someone who could potentially be a viable long-term prospect. But even then, it's going to be a while before I can commit to anything long-term.
I'm 30 now and would like to have a family sometime in the next 10 years. 35 is probably the earliest I can see myself starting a family. So I have a lot of time to look around and find a partner.
I'm 30 now and would like to have a family sometime in the next 10 years. 35 is probably the earliest I can see myself starting a family. So I have a lot of time to look around and find a partner.
This post was edited on 3/9/16 at 1:03 pm
Posted on 3/9/16 at 1:06 pm to Mr. Shankly
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she left me for an old man
Sorry for being awesome.
Posted on 3/9/16 at 1:27 pm to Kujo
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how much older are you than your wife?
She's 43, I'm 46. She looks 33. I look 46.
Posted on 3/9/16 at 1:30 pm to fr33manator
Seek happiness without matrimony.
Posted on 3/9/16 at 1:31 pm to jvilletiger25
Love is grand. Divorce, twenty grand.
Posted on 3/9/16 at 1:36 pm to Chris Warner
I was divorced 6 years before getting married again. Dated the new wife for 4 years.
She's 11 years younger and a Chemical Engineer with a great paying job. 1000x better than my first wife. I happily put a ring on her finger with ZERO worries.
Without sounding too beta, I'm happier now than I have ever been in my entire life which really is what all men want after divorce....a chance to be happy again. Some find that happiness through being single, some find it in a partner better suited for them than their previous spouse.
She's 11 years younger and a Chemical Engineer with a great paying job. 1000x better than my first wife. I happily put a ring on her finger with ZERO worries.
Without sounding too beta, I'm happier now than I have ever been in my entire life which really is what all men want after divorce....a chance to be happy again. Some find that happiness through being single, some find it in a partner better suited for them than their previous spouse.
This post was edited on 3/9/16 at 1:38 pm
Posted on 3/9/16 at 1:43 pm to Tigeralum2008
Thanks for the success stories. They make me feel so much better. My ex is already remarried. And I guess part of me is anxious because I see her already moved on. But I know that she is already miserable, so I suppose I shouldn't be jealous.
Posted on 3/9/16 at 1:47 pm to jvilletiger25
Another bit of advice, stop caring whether your ex is happy or miserable. Work on you.
Posted on 3/9/16 at 1:48 pm to Count Chocula
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So is it true what they say about nurses?
YES
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