re: Have you seen a loved one in a state that crushed you…

My daughter was born with a tethered spine. 12 hours old and she was transported to Children's Hospital in New Orleans. I was by her side for 70 of the 72 hours she was there. They did the surgery 6 months later. The day she was to be discharged she got a fever. They checked her and come to find out the bottom of her wound was infected internally. Did another surgery and she came out like a champ. But I was devastated seeing my 6 month old who couldn't let me know what was wrong or how she was feeling or even hold her for 3 days after the surgery.

Fast forward 2 years. I'm at work on just a normal Monday. My now ex-wife tells me the baby is anemic and she's going to need a blood transfusion. My boss looks at me and says "Man something is wrong you need to get there." I get there meet them in the waiting room. Laughing and playing and cutting up with my daughter, 15 minutes later they come in and tell us her blood work results are back and she's got Leukemia. It was everything I could do to hold myself together at that moment. For the next 30 days I would work during the day, go home shower go to the hospital and then go home and absolutely cry my eyes out and ask god why her, why not me? For 2 years life was rough watching my baby go through that. But she is done with treatments now and they will be removing her treatment port soon. I'm pretty sure the whole family took watching her go through the whole treatment process harder than she did. She was an absolute champ and would light up the hospital with her personality and the nurses and doctors loved when she would walk through the doors. They say god only gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers and I'm telling you now that is one strong little girl!

Grandmother after her stroke

had to go to a funeral home with my brother to identify our father’s body

13 months later, same funeral home to identify my mother, this time with my sis

very next day, back at the same funeral home to identify my brother

i’ve seen enough of that little room to last me for awhile

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Have you seen a loved one in a state that crushed you

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Not sure if this has been posted yet, but I’ll shoot.

Yes. My mom sadly stayed in the state of Louisiana.

I still haven’t gotten over it.

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Took care of my father 24/7 end of his life over a year. We considered a facility but he had gotten really mean and we knew how he would be treated.

I hope you never have to be taught how to dress bed sores. We had a computerized device to turn him which didn't help.

When he passed I didn't cry. His ordeal was over.

He fought in WW II put 5 kids through college and did not deserve to go out that way.

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Just in case no one ever told you Sir, you were a great son.

Yes

Luckily I was able to avoid a recent situation with my mother. I wanted to be there, but another emergency came up. I'm glad my memories do not include her final hours.

When I went to see my grandfather in the hospital for the last time. This big man with all his muscles lying there helpless in a bed crushed me. I’ll never forget how he looked lying there.

The last two years of my mother's life she was semi-lucid but she had no idea who any of us were. My dad on the other hand was half-drunk working on a lawn mower when he fell over dead. That's not such a bad way to go.