re: Have Female Friends = Not A Slayer (Theory) (Pic of Slayer)

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Why on Earth would you do that?

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Been a long time, but I don't mind doing it and I get to hang out with her for a few hours.

He's leaning like that b/c he's sitting on his wallet.

SMU= $$$$$

I certainly wasn't a slayer, but I may have had a little sneaky-slayer in me.

The smartest, or probably luckiest(cause I didn't plan it), thing I ever did was my best friend in college was a girl who was in the sorority with the hottest chicks.

I used that experience going forward as well lol. My first real job was on night shift in an ER, tons of opportunities there. I found the hot, super slutty girl that knew everyone and always organized all of the bar/club outings, and I just made sure that her and i became good friends, worked out well.

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The smartest, or probably luckiest(cause I didn't plan it), thing I ever did was my best friend in college was a girl who was in the sorority with the hottest chicks.

I used that experience going forward as well lol. My first real job was on night shift in an ER, tons of opportunities there. I found the hot, super slutty girl that knew everyone and always organized all of the bar/club outings, and I just made sure that her and i became good friends, worked out well.

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Women are the best wingmen.

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High quality prime 18-22 year olds? I can't do that.

But slaying 25-35 is pretty easy although those girls are passed prime.

The age pill is a tough pill to swallow

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How old are you? Cause this could be a very creepy statement if you are over 30

Being a "slayer" or whatever is an interesting phenomenon. I'm not one...I've gotten laid randomly at times, but I can't put that slayer label on myself. There's a math equation involved that you simply cannot fake. You have to be handsome, easy-going, smile a lot, and make the girl feel like she's the funniest, most interesting person in the world. When you see someone do it naturally, it really is a sight to behold. I'm married and over it now, but whenever I witness it at a bar, I still get a twinge of jealousy...

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I was in my late 20s and divorced so I was hitting clubs ( and anything that would hold still) and I saw guys like that.

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that's the rub. I had about as wild a three years as I think I could've had, having gotten out of a long term relationship, then moved to Los Angeles.

the funny thing is that all of my close friends are female, there are literally no better a wingman on the planet than another attractive girl.

keys to an active and fun sex life:
-discretion, honesty, communication and respect. I always told women that I wasn't interested in anything more at the outset. some moved on. some didn't. some said they were moving on, processed the information, then came back. it turns out though if you actually show th a good time, a lot of them are like "sure, why not?". I never let them feel badly for us not dating exclusively. or for it not moving forward. they were amazing girls. never broadcast our relationship either. and when it was time to move on, we d talk about it then break it off and be friends. sometimes i had girls I dated, introduce me and set me up with their friends.
- confidence. I don't care what your thing is. but you do your thing and no one can do it better than you. no one can out karma me. it's literally impossible because well, I'm karma. women are attracted to confidence- creative. sexual. business. intelligence. taste. food. it literally doesn't matter.
- passion. be dynamite in bed. like off the charts dynamite. that extends from everything from the first kiss to the post sex curl up.

lastly, reconizance. at a certain point you see that there is an endless supply of beautiful, intelligent women in the world. you can get to know a hundred of them at a superficial level for days/months at a time, but the real relationships are forged in fire and time. I met THE girl and stepped off the carousel.

not married but haven't regretted it a day since. funny thinking back on single times. it comes up and I forget the era happened. hope it doesn't happen again. but wouldn't fear it. just not the road I'm choosing.

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You have to be handsome, easy-going, smile a lot, and make the girl feel like she's the funniest, most interesting person in the world

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I think this is key. and if you're an "in the moment type person" then on a micro level it's not hard to enjoy a person's company that much and just roll with it. if you actively enjoy people it's easier for this to happen often.

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I'm just a curmudgeon now, though

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take the wifey somewhere new buddy! life's too short to get old