re: For people who've lost a parent: What's the last thing you said to your mom/dad?

Vaya con dios

my mom passed away a Sept 14. I won't share what I said as it's too raw.

I will say that any ill feelings I had toward her were put to bed before she passed. I wiped the slate clean and she knew we were good.

I'm so glad I did that. I couldn't have held onto that for the rest of my life.

She was a pain in the arse and caused a lot of problems but she was my mom and she's missed.

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For people who've lost a parent: What's the last thing you said to your mom/dad?

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I was probably 3, so maybe bye? He didn't die by the way, well not for 50 years at least.

"Dad, I'm going to unplug this machine. My iPhone's almost dead, and I need the outlet."

That I didn't care, I forgave him, and I loved him

When I was 16 years old, my Dad was dying from cancer and told me he loved me and to take care of my mom . Strange thing is he had been hallucinating from strong pain medication for a couple weeks before his death . The day he died, he spoke to all 6 of his children separately ! Even though he was still taking pain meds, he wasn't hallucinating and spoke very clear headed to all of us. My Dad waited for priest to come and give him his last rites and then passed away .

I recently lost my mom and it breaks my heart because I didn't get to tell her bye. I didn't know our last words would be about keeping her sedated so she wouldn't feel like she was smothering from the damn cancer. I saw fear in my moms eyes that morning. She was the strongest person I knew and I never saw her afraid of anything. I promised my mom that I would keep her sedated so she wouldnt feel like she was suffocating. That was the last time I spoke to my mom. She never woke up after that day and passed away 2 days later. I just wanted to tell her how much I love her ! I miss her so much and am lost without her!

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My dad's death was sudden and unexpected but I've wondered to myself if that was preferable to something long and drawn out. Of course, I'd have loved to have more years with him, and the opportunity to say goodbye but it's just a question I kick around in my head from time to time.

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A long, slow decline can be physically, emotionally & financially draining on family and friends, but being able to see the end coming gives everyone plenty of time to be as prepared as possible when it happens. If it's something like severe Alzheimer's, the end can even be a bit of a relief (went through this with my paternal grandmother, by the end she was just a shell of flesh unable to even feed herself, by that point the person she was had long since moved on).

A quick, unexpected death hits harder due to that very nature of being unexpected. While it's tougher to handle, in the instances it came to my family I've taken consolation in knowing that at least the loved one didn't suffer (aunt died suddenly of a brain aneurysm, maternal grandfather died after getting a quad bypass).

tl;dr - I've lived through both and both have their pros and cons.

Why did you give Cyndi the fricking place at Wright Patman?


Shrug.

I was little - I said "bye mommy." I don't think I comprehended what was going on.