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re: Ever had your life fall apart?
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:22 am to AUCE05
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:22 am to AUCE05
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Your decisions alone dictate your outcome. It has helped me to realize in reality, I control very little.
This is the most important thing in this thread. Becoming accountable, self sufficient and loving to oneself is the most important thing. Focus on what you can change and accept what you can't in as healthy a way as possible.
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Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:27 am to dnm3305
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Your decisions alone dictate your outcome. It has helped me to realize in reality, I control very little.
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This is the most important thing in this thread. Becoming accountable,
So you think that the most important thing stated in this thread is THIS? Do you not see a huge contradiction in the two statements?
"Your decisions alone dictate your outcome" AND
"It has helped me to realize in reality, I control very little"....
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:27 am to dnm3305
As you get older there is one thing that becomes crystal clear....this life will be full of pain. It comes for everyone.
This world wasn't built to last. It's all going to end sometime. These bodies of ours get old and weaker by the day.
I embrace this truth and trust that there is another place on the other side. A better place.
I have faith...not that everything will be OK all the time...but that when things aren't OK I have a friend who understands my plight... a man familiar with sorrows and acquainted with grief...he walks with me in the suffering
This world wasn't built to last. It's all going to end sometime. These bodies of ours get old and weaker by the day.
I embrace this truth and trust that there is another place on the other side. A better place.
I have faith...not that everything will be OK all the time...but that when things aren't OK I have a friend who understands my plight... a man familiar with sorrows and acquainted with grief...he walks with me in the suffering
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:30 am to LCA131
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Do you not see a huge contradiction in the two statements?
Yes, saying "you dictate your outcome" and then saying "you control very little" are contradictory. Do you not realize that they can both be true, and that it's how you perceive both events that will contribute greatly to your mental health?
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:34 am to tuptiger
Acceptance changes things.
Find something, anything to be grateful for. Close your eyes and pick 3 things. If you have a bed, food to eat and a flower in the yard to look at that is 3 right there. Be grateful for those few things and grace will start to build on that gratefulness.
When we concentrate on the bad and forget to be grateful it compounds the crap.
Concentrate on the good. There is lots of it.
Find something, anything to be grateful for. Close your eyes and pick 3 things. If you have a bed, food to eat and a flower in the yard to look at that is 3 right there. Be grateful for those few things and grace will start to build on that gratefulness.
When we concentrate on the bad and forget to be grateful it compounds the crap.
Concentrate on the good. There is lots of it.
This post was edited on 8/12/16 at 8:35 am
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:36 am to LCA131
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Do you not see a huge contradiction in the two statements?
Praying for your problems to be solved is an effort to control them. It's placebo. Realizing that you do not have a hotline to the architect of the universe and that you should focus on your very limited area of control is consistent with what he said.
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:38 am to tuptiger
In the past 5 years, i had cancer that was caught early. Child in drug treatment, elderly sick parents, spouse lost job, other child involved in car wreck yesterday. Make it stop.
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:39 am to tuptiger
It is definitely tough and does get a little better with time.
The last two years have been rough on me for sure. My father died suddenly at work in our office. We sold the family business and I now work for the new owners. My pay has been cut 46% from where it was when we owned the company. I felt that life had taken a huge shite on me but it is getting better but still not great by any means.
The last two years have been rough on me for sure. My father died suddenly at work in our office. We sold the family business and I now work for the new owners. My pay has been cut 46% from where it was when we owned the company. I felt that life had taken a huge shite on me but it is getting better but still not great by any means.
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:40 am to Tigahs24Seven
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Acceptance changes things. Find something, anything to be grateful for.
My life improved drastically when I stopped focusing on the negative in my life and started looking at what positive I had around me. It's hard to do at first. But focusing on the positive and learning to be comfortable with yourself is a huge step in the right direction.
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:40 am to tuptiger
My life fell apart when my 22 year old son was killed in an auto accident. That was 12 years ago. It was never the same again.
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:41 am to Tigerlaff
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Praying for your problems to be solved
Never mind....I think I know what the problem is. If you are a person outside of a faith, you may want to hesitate to tell others how to pray.
I just think that those who do not believe should not tell someone is DOES believe that he is wrong...especially when he is already 'down' and the majority of the world DOES believe in a higher power. That you don't may be fine for you...but not for everyone.
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:42 am to tuptiger
A friend of mine lost his job and found out his wife of 20+ years had multiple affairs behind his back within a couple of months.
He had always been a Christian, but he didn't live every day in dependence on Christ as we are prescribed to do. These personal tragedies led him to know Christ in a new way.
He had always been a Christian, but he didn't live every day in dependence on Christ as we are prescribed to do. These personal tragedies led him to know Christ in a new way.
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:42 am to tuptiger
We have free will. People talk about why God lets things happen, but he gave us free will. So all the things in our world are the doing of us.
Bad things happen, you can't focus on them, you have to find the good in everyday things. Attitude is everything IMO.
Bad things happen, you can't focus on them, you have to find the good in everyday things. Attitude is everything IMO.
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:45 am to barry
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We have free will. People talk about why God lets things happen, but he gave us free will. So all the things in our world are the doing of us.
Those bastards in Nepal had it coming. Same goes for tsunami victims.
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:47 am to tuptiger
Only you are in charge of your happiness. Once you realize this, life becomes much easier.
Posted on 8/12/16 at 8:53 am to Displaced
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Those bastards in Nepal had it coming
They worship Buddha.
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tsunami victims
So does the majority of Thailand
But that really is irrelevant to the disasters.
Posted on 8/12/16 at 9:04 am to Evil Little Thing
It all falls apart when you quit doing legs.
Posted on 8/12/16 at 9:04 am to tuptiger
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This post was edited on 8/13/16 at 12:15 am
Posted on 8/12/16 at 9:06 am to Displaced
Look at the people that spread Christianity in the face of overwhelming persecution by the Jews and Romans. The leaders of the church were all men that abandoned Jesus before his death. These men who wouldn't even admit to knowing him had a change of heart to the point that they were willing to die to get the word out. Paul who spread the gospel around basically the entire known world at the time went from trying to stamp Christianity out to spending the rest of his life making sure everyone he came in contact with knew the good news. You may not believe but you have to at least admit that it is incredibly unlikely that it would have made it out of the first century in the face of overwhelming persecution if people hadn't had a tangible experience that they believed was with the son of God.
Posted on 8/12/16 at 9:07 am to tuptiger
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So, if God heals all, why would he destroy things to begin with? Isn't it like going to an orthopedic surgeon who broke both of your legs?
I am a Christian. I'm beginning to lose my faith, though, particularly in prayer.
I'll read the Bible. Weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning. I haven't really had much joy in quite some time.
I don't think God destroyed things for you. Even if you didn't bring them on yourself, they are a by-product of life.
Life is about taking the good with the bad and enjoying the good time in-between the horrible shite that happens (death, financial loss, accidents).
I find faith around good people that truly serve God. It's important to be connected to a church community of good people to help you through the really tough shite.
It gets better. There's a way out. Focus your life around faith and good people! You'll make it!
This post was edited on 8/12/16 at 9:21 am
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