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re: Daughters BF has asked to marry daughter
Posted on 1/22/17 at 9:45 pm to Fun Bunch
Posted on 1/22/17 at 9:45 pm to Fun Bunch
People are not statistics. My wife was only 16 and I was 21 when we got married. We went through all the channels and was forced to listen to counselors who told us about statistics. That was 42 years ago. I have a ton of friends who were married about the same time and most are still happily married. We all married in our late teens or early twenties. But that was before the age of the millinials. You can't always tell ahead of time how things will work out.
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Posted on 1/22/17 at 9:47 pm to Badman
If you had doubts about his future and ability to provide financially for a family, why is this just now an issue after 5 years? If they've been dating since 11th grade, you had 3 years after high school to gauge where his future is headed and could've mentioned that to your daughter a long time ago....now that the boy saved up for a long time and probably already bought the ring and wanted to be respectful to you and get your blessing, now his income is a problem?
Posted on 1/22/17 at 9:48 pm to Badman
Congrats on becoming a grandfather
Posted on 1/22/17 at 9:48 pm to Badman
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My only hesitation is that he is not in school and I don't really see any future career path for him.
Possible heir to a successful business? Sounds terrible.
Posted on 1/22/17 at 9:49 pm to rickyh
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My wife was only 16 and I was 21 when we got married
Dude...
Posted on 1/22/17 at 9:51 pm to Badman
And for goodness sake, pick up the lunch tab
Posted on 1/22/17 at 9:59 pm to Badman
At least he works. You're worried about his education or lack of it? Education doesn't guarantee a great salary nor job security. Does he have a good work ethic? I'm the only one in my family with no degree and that covers 3 generations. I have worked the longest at my job and make more money than anyone in my family. Think about how he treats your daughter. Of course, we all feel like nobody is good enough for our daughters. I have 2. Be sure he knows that she is one of the most important people in your life and he mistreating her would not end well for him. I'm sure you pretty much already know whether or not he's a good guy. If not, then what does that say about your daughter's judgement and taste? Be sure to talk to him face to face. None of that text crap. He's going to be the father of your grandchildren. If the relationship has gone this far, this should be easy. He must be a good guy. Otherwise, your daughter would have kicked him to the curb. Right?
Posted on 1/22/17 at 10:01 pm to GRTiger
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Possible heir to a successful business? Sounds terrible.
Lol, exactly. Dude probably works his arse off and makes 70k, but dad would prefer some college grad that has some shitty go nowhere job because he views that as a proper "career"
Posted on 1/22/17 at 10:07 pm to Tiger in NY
quote:yeah, probably
makes 70k
Posted on 1/22/17 at 10:08 pm to Badman
I'm no expert on this, but I'd imagine that a dad would rather want the guy to marry his daughter than question it on TD. If he was a solid dude, wouldn't you have thought "When is he gonna propose?"
Posted on 1/22/17 at 10:09 pm to Tiger in NY
Welcome him as your son. If you have the means support them in any way you can comfortably. Do you own a business he can come into? If he wants to go on his own at the tile business and you can help, do it, As long as he is bettering himself and your daughter's lives, be as supportive as you can.
Posted on 1/22/17 at 10:10 pm to Badman
You're so out of touch.
Here's how it goes:
1. He's been banging your daughter for a while now
2. She's been blowing him
3. He asked you out of respect
4. He doesn't need your permission to do anything to your daughter
5. He doesn't care if you say no, it'll just make it awkward
6. She doesn't care if you say no, it'll just make it awkward
Here's how it goes:
1. He's been banging your daughter for a while now
2. She's been blowing him
3. He asked you out of respect
4. He doesn't need your permission to do anything to your daughter
5. He doesn't care if you say no, it'll just make it awkward
6. She doesn't care if you say no, it'll just make it awkward
Posted on 1/22/17 at 10:14 pm to Tiger in NY
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Dude probably works his arse off and makes 70k
Maybe, and if he already does then he isn't going to earn much more until he takes over the family business. Earning potential is key.
There are no guarantees here.
Posted on 1/22/17 at 10:16 pm to rickyh
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But that was before the age of millenials
Seems like you are saying that millenials cant get married that early because thats not how they operate
In reality, it is just highly illegal now, unless they have an abstinent marriage going
Posted on 1/22/17 at 10:16 pm to Bmath
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Maybe, and if he already does then he isn't going to earn much more until he takes over the family business. Earning potential is key.
There are no guarantees here.
1. $70k ain't a bad living (especially if the wife is also pulling in $50k+, which is what it sounds like)
2. It's none of the dad's business anyway.
Life isn't just about earning potential. If he's a good dude and good to the daughter, just say "yes". Anything else is not the dad's place to say.
This post was edited on 1/22/17 at 10:18 pm
Posted on 1/22/17 at 10:17 pm to Winston Cup
Posted on 1/22/17 at 10:19 pm to rickyh
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My wife was only 16 and I was 21 when we got married.
Wtf this isn't the 1800s
Posted on 1/22/17 at 10:19 pm to Badman
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I don't really see any future career path for him.
No hope of him taking over his father's business?
Posted on 1/22/17 at 10:19 pm to Badman
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great relationship. About 5 years
quote:
meet sometime this week for lunch to talk
savage
Posted on 1/22/17 at 10:20 pm to Badman
Dude asked the most important question of his life, and you basically told him you'll think about it and get back to him? God damn you're a complete jerk off.
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