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re: Dating a Catholic when you're not
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:22 pm to LucasP
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:22 pm to LucasP
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In what way to they differ here? I've been to both masses and I thought they both had the line about "body of Christ".
The short, bastardized version is that Catholics take it to literally be the very Body and Blood of Christ in the form of bread and wine while essentially all other Protestant religions except Episcopalian (by consensus statement,at least) believe it to be more a symbol of His presence.
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Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:22 pm to LucasP
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:24 pm to Fishwater
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She recently told me if we were to go to my Methodist church on Sunday morning, should we have to go to her Catholic church either on Saturday evening or later on Sunday.
Do you really think God gives a shite which house you worship it from?
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:24 pm to LucasP
One thinks it's symbolic... while the other thinks the priest has a way of making it real.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:25 pm to Fishwater
So your issue is you both worship the same imaginary sky man in a slightly different way. Your life must be so tough.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:26 pm to Fishwater
IF she is a "devout Catholic" and you do get married, she is going to want to get married in the Catholic Church. And even though kids are not yet on the table, the non Catholic, at that point in time, has to sign papers agreeing to have any children raised as Catholics. Obviously, this can be ignored when the time comes but if religion is this important to you both, this may be an issue if she remains adamant in having them raised in the Church.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:28 pm to Fishwater
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I've been going with her to Catholic Mass and I don't mind, but she had zero use for going with me to my church.
Well, to be fair, if you're not a Catholic you are a heathen who will burn in hell. But, don't let that stop you from partying!
This post was edited on 11/7/16 at 3:30 pm
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:29 pm to Fishwater
Sounds like there's a conversion in your future, if you end up marrying her.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:29 pm to webstew
Wow.
Talk about getting caught up in pedantic details and completely missing the point. If your religious focus is on superpowers rather than a message, it might be time to reconsider.
To the OP, if this minutia bullshite is what separates y'all's faiths then you would be insane to end a relationship over it.
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Such a figurative explanation of the second part of the discourse ( John 6:52-72 ), however, is not only unusual but absolutely impossible, as even Protestant exegetes (Delitzsch, Kostlin, Keil, Kahnis, and others) readily concede. First of all the whole structure of the discourse of promise demands a literal interpretation of the words: "eat the flesh of the Son of man, and drink his blood".
Talk about getting caught up in pedantic details and completely missing the point. If your religious focus is on superpowers rather than a message, it might be time to reconsider.
To the OP, if this minutia bullshite is what separates y'all's faiths then you would be insane to end a relationship over it.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:30 pm to Fishwater
quote:I'm not religious so I wouldn't have this issue. Just me personally, but I'm not sure I'd date a super religious girl.
Started dating a new gal a few months ago. She is awesome. We have a great time together. She is a devout Catholic and I'm Methodist. She recently told me if we were to go to my Methodist church on Sunday morning, should we have to go to her Catholic church either on Saturday evening or later on Sunday. I've been going with her to Catholic Mass and I don't mind, but she had zero use for going with me to my church.
That being said, in your situation, there has to be give and take. If you're going to her church, but she's unwilling to go to yours, that's a red flag, possibly if you both value your church equally.
quote:Just flat out ask her, why does she not go to your church when you go to hers. Her answer will guide you in the right direction.
I somewhat understand her beliefs as to the rituals of her service, but it also makes me wonder down the road how this could unfold.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:32 pm to Fishwater
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What are your thoughts or experience on this?
You're either about to start going to Catholic Church or you're going to end that relationship.
Any other advice is bullshite.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:38 pm to shel311
My wife converted to Catholicism before we married. Not a huge deal. Plenty of reading material on the subject.
If the OP really likes this girl, he should not let her faith be an obstacle in their relationship if he is not particularly devout.
If the OP really likes this girl, he should not let her faith be an obstacle in their relationship if he is not particularly devout.
This post was edited on 11/7/16 at 3:41 pm
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:41 pm to LucasP
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To the OP, if this minutia bullshite is what separates y'all's faiths then you would be insane to end a relationship over it.
It is a and possibly the central tenet of the Catholic religion. They do not consider it minor. It is probably the most important belief.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:41 pm to Fishwater
Lmao, the last time I was in church, the priest stopped the sermon to belittle some parents bc their kid was wearing nike gear instead of a suit and tie. I walked out that moment.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:43 pm to Fishwater
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She is a devout Catholic and I'm Methodist
The bad news is you're both wasting your time.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:44 pm to Fishwater
Like you I am a Methodist. I've been married to a Catholic girl for over 40 years. I agreed to raise our children as Catholics and don't regret it. The only misgiving is that I can't take communion in a Catholic church but that is not a big misgiving. My wife was not at all familiar with other religions. She was surprised I knew the Apostles' Creed, the Lord's Prayer and read the same bible.
People within a given religion often disagree on some things. I point to birth control as a good example.
People within a given religion often disagree on some things. I point to birth control as a good example.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:45 pm to Fishwater
Same situation as my parents. My Dad agreed to raise us Catholic. Both are Christ-based religions. Doesn't have to be complicated.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:48 pm to Fishwater
As mentioned earlier, she has an obligation to attend Mass and to receive the Eucharist on Sunday or at Saturday vigil.
If she agrees go to your Methodist service, then she seems to be making a fair compromise if you also attend Mass with her. Hopefully she hasn't stated that attending your service was of "zero use" to her as any service isn't for the benefit of the individual, our attendance is to give thanks to God for his Glory and Mercy.
In my opinion, If your relationship progresses, a choice should be made on what faith to follow. If you choose the Catholic faith, you can still marry her in the Church and not be a Catholic--pre-Cana. And you may choose to join the faith later--RCIA.
Discuss now your views on contraceptives, pre and post marital sex, abortions, same sex marriage and even divorce. Learning now what each of you truly feel about these topics could prevent future arguments or worse.
If she agrees go to your Methodist service, then she seems to be making a fair compromise if you also attend Mass with her. Hopefully she hasn't stated that attending your service was of "zero use" to her as any service isn't for the benefit of the individual, our attendance is to give thanks to God for his Glory and Mercy.
In my opinion, If your relationship progresses, a choice should be made on what faith to follow. If you choose the Catholic faith, you can still marry her in the Church and not be a Catholic--pre-Cana. And you may choose to join the faith later--RCIA.
Discuss now your views on contraceptives, pre and post marital sex, abortions, same sex marriage and even divorce. Learning now what each of you truly feel about these topics could prevent future arguments or worse.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:50 pm to PlanoPrivateer
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My wife was not at all familiar with other religions. She was surprised I knew the Apostles' Creed, the Lord's Prayer and read the same bible.
That's not surprising. Catholics are taught at a young age that their version of Christianity is the absolute truth and that all other versions are inferior/wrong.
I know quite a few Catholics who were amazed that I knew more about their church and all the prayers, creeds, etc than they did. I was raised Lutheran.
Catholics for the most part are pretty sheltered.
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