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Dating a Catholic when you're not
Posted on 11/7/16 at 2:59 pm
Posted on 11/7/16 at 2:59 pm
Started dating a new gal a few months ago. She is awesome. We have a great time together. She is a devout Catholic and I'm Methodist. She recently told me if we were to go to my Methodist church on Sunday morning, should we have to go to her Catholic church either on Saturday evening or later on Sunday. I've been going with her to Catholic Mass and I don't mind, but she had zero use for going with me to my church.
Is this normal?
I somewhat understand her beliefs as to the rituals of her service, but it also makes me wonder down the road how this could unfold.
What are your thoughts or experience on this?
Is this normal?
I somewhat understand her beliefs as to the rituals of her service, but it also makes me wonder down the road how this could unfold.
What are your thoughts or experience on this?
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Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:00 pm to Fishwater
butt sex thread
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:02 pm to Fishwater
just abandon religion altogether. going to church blows
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:02 pm to Fishwater
RCIA is in your future
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:03 pm to Jones
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going to church twice in a day?
Y'all can become Baptist!
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:03 pm to Carson123987
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just abandon religion altogether. going to church blows
This, I used to go with my ex and it was terrible.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:03 pm to Fishwater
How old is she? They five that shite up around 21
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:03 pm to Carson123987
quote:this.
just abandon religion altogether.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:03 pm to Fishwater
So, she hasn't let you tap it yet?
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:03 pm to Fishwater
Religious convictions are important to her. Sounds like a keeper.
How commited to Methodist doctrine are you? Most passive Methodists don't have too much trouble converting to Catholicism.
How commited to Methodist doctrine are you? Most passive Methodists don't have too much trouble converting to Catholicism.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:04 pm to Fishwater
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but she had zero use for going with me to my church.
Is this normal?
Yes. This is normal. Nothing prevents a Catholic from going to another Christian service, but a faithful Catholic should attend Mass at least weekly. At Mass, they receive what they believe is the consecrated true Body and Blood of Christ. Nothing in a Methodist service replaces this, thus she may attend your service but won't be fulfilling her Catholic duty, whereas you may feel/be totally justified by attending any Christian service on a weekly basis (I admittedly don't know what is prescribed to you).
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:04 pm to Fishwater
If you are both devout to your religion, I hate to say it, but I don't see it working. Even if you "give in", somewhere down the road you will resent her for it. Unless you can agree to "go your separate ways" when it comes to religion, there will be friction. That will be fine for awhile, until children come into the picture. Just my opinion, good luck to you both. 
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:04 pm to Fishwater
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What are your thoughts or experience on this?
Well, at least she is willing to go with you, however it does kind of trivialize your faith for her to say she has to go another time as well.
That sort of inflexibility can spill over into other things as the relationship progresses.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:05 pm to Fishwater
How old are you? Do you have marriage in mind sooner rather than later? It sounds like she's not going to be very flexible if you had kids, etc. You need to either be upfront how you feel and come to some agreement or understand it's going to be her way in the future.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:05 pm to Fishwater
I don't know this girl, but I know if you want to marry her she will make you convert.
If you don't want to be a Catholic and aren't getting laid in the mean time (doesn't sound like you are) dump her.
If you don't want to be a Catholic and aren't getting laid in the mean time (doesn't sound like you are) dump her.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:06 pm to Fishwater
Generally, the less devout person switches for the more devout.
I was already catholic, so I didn't have to make a switch. However, I did go through all of the pre-wedding Catholic BS for my wife, so we could get married in the church.
I was already catholic, so I didn't have to make a switch. However, I did go through all of the pre-wedding Catholic BS for my wife, so we could get married in the church.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:06 pm to NewIberiaHaircut
The core principles of Methodists and Catholics are the same. Shouldn't really be an issue.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:06 pm to Fishwater
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Fishwater
All of that is a huge red flag. If she has no interest in your religion and compromise, not worth it.
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but it also makes me wonder down the road how this could unfold.
You convert and it's all Catholic all the time.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:07 pm to Fishwater
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She is a devout Catholic and I'm Methodist.
I'm afraid that you are simply too different to ever find happiness together.
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