re: Cry it out night 1, need some thoughts

Had this issue with my daughter from birth until 6 months old. Doctor diagnosed as colic and as simple as it sounds, told my wife and I to let her cry in durations by extending the time we pick her up in 10 minute increments. So first night, let her cry for 10 minutes, pick her up, comfort her by rocking, walking, or whatever worked to put her back to sleep. In our particular case, the vacuum cleaner running or turning on the faucet full blast in the tub were enough to calm her down and put her to sleep. Place her back in bed, and extend next crying episode by 10 minutes. He offered that one parent do it one night, and the other parent the next. It's tough listening to your baby cry, but it eventually worked. Some nights we slept for hours, and other nights not so good, but eventually, the sleep durations extended, and by 6 months she was good to go. Also, her formula was more expensive than any wine or bourbon I was buying for myself at the time, so there's that caveat!! Just be patient because in the long run, it'll be the least of your worries raising a kid!

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No she doesn't, we went to formula at 11 weeks

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Milk or soy based?

Enfamil makes a soy-based concentrate, Prosobee for sensitive tummy.

Cry it out does not mean leave the baby in the bed until he stops crying.

Personally, I would say 4.5 months is too young to cry it out alone. It isn't too young to train, but that is a process too and it does not have to involve him screaming for hours. Pick him up. Feed him. Change his diaper. Do what you need. But keep nighttime contact brief and boring. Do it all by nightlight so he understands it isn't time to be awake. Pick him up when he cries and put him back down as soon as he calms. Pat his back so he knows you are there. But he is too young to just leave him crying. Especially for that long. We did cry it out with my daughter around 12-14 months, but even then we would check on her periodically. Read the books everyone hs recommended. Training is a commitment, not a little fix after a crying session.

Has nobody said "Ferber Method" yet? Look it up. It works. You are welcome.