re: Couples who stay together "for the kids"

I'm sorry and I know if there was anything you could have done to spare your children going thru that you would have.

Some people don't have a choice.
I was just explain why some would opt to stay even tho being unhappy

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11? That a tough age. I was 16. Little brother was 11. He's never been the same

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Literally the same here. I'm ok but my brother doesn't trust anyone. He is the opposite of what he was growing up.

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Divorce is one of the trashiest things two people can do.

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People says this until they have to deal with it themselves.

I didn't want a divorce. I loved my ex wife dearly. (RIP)

She simply left me no choice but to leave. It was that or watch her slowly kill herself, which she ultimately did.

I realized that she was going to do it with or without me. I chose not to put myself through that hell. I had been through enough hell already.

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I'm assuming kids can sense this dysfunctional relationship.

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yeah for sure.

I think after my parents got one there was a sense if relief. I mean everybody was still sad but ready to move on at the same time.

i hate that you made a thread about it though and that I answered in it.

its Christmas.

lighten up.

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Well that's pretty gosh damned depressing. Sorry about that, man.

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Yes it was. Will probably never get married again after that

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If you're concerned about the trashiness (i.e. the perception of it), then your main concern isn't the children, and your priorities are more than a little fricked up. The black and white crowd on divorce should be the last people you listen to when considering it.

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Sorry about your divorce.

She told me she wanted one when my son was a month old and my daughter 2. It's pretty much all they've ever known. In that way it's kinder. Better to rip the band-aid off quick than slow.

And this way, possibly, I might even have a chance to find some sort of happiness with someone that actually loves me. It was going to happen, apparently. So I'm thankful it happened earlier rather than later.

I love titties and frick Obama! Wooooh!!!



But seriously. Hope you read that before the edit.

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Which one?

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this one?

We have gone through some very difficult times. My wife had a disfunctional family (don't we all) that taught her to run away from problems. She would want a divorce every time we had a fight. I was so resentful that I couldn't see straight.

We stuck it out, mostly because I just could not imagine not living with my children, and also because we just couldn't afford two households. I don't judge others who have to make this tough decision, but I will say that prayer can help.

Finally, after years of Cold War, (not too many fights in front of the kids) we started getting along better. We matured ( she matured) and now we see a future for ourselves together, even after the kids are gone.

We've been together 25 years. Hopefully, we made the right decision to stick together. It just feels like the alternative would have been so much worse, and now we are reaping the benefit of our growing wiser together with the grace of God.