re: 7yr Old Jumped at School - PG 9 Update

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He held his own well enough to escape undamaged

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Sounds like this will only make him stronger.

Just remind him that most bullies never amount to shite, unless they are good at sports.

Here is some vague advice on how to deal with the school, and how to coach up your son. It's going to come off as armchair legal advice, and psychology, but it works. You and he need to learn to be the author of your own story. Dictate how things are going to go. Not because you are victims, not out of fear or anger, but because you are an advocate for assigning responsibility from top to bottom. Kids to Teachers.

School:
Gather all the information you can. Contact the parents of the kids involved.

Let the school know the things that you have to say, to have leverage with them in the future. Make formal documented statements to them, not just a handshake with the principal. Let them know what you think of their handling of the situation.

Not because it is their job to make sure your son is safe, but because documentation and assignment of responsibility before a second incident occurs, is the only thing that puts you in even more control if it does happen again.

Son:
Let your son know there is no shame in losing a fight to one kid, or two kids, or ten kids. No shame in crying. No shame in running. That no matter how he handles himself, you are going to have his back. If he wants to fight back, encourage it.

The world is going to be tougher on him than these kids ever will be. It is most important that his spirit, and resolve stay in tact. Do not let the school find a way to neuter him. Make sure he knows, that while this may feel like the biggest thing in his world, it is nothing in comparison to the size of your love for him. Saying those sort of things, will make him confident. Even if you have a hard time saying them. Make it happen for your son.

If he is not scared of them. Teach him to say things that are true, even when they are hard. Tell him to yell at them that he is not scared. That he is supposed to lose to more than person. That he is not afraid of losing. That he knows that if something is going on in their lives that they need to gang up on him, that he will take the beating so someone else doesn't have to. Not to cry "why are you doing this to me?" ... reasoning doesn't matter. Tell those kids he feels sorry for them. Teach him to have empathy for those so weak, that they must act out.

Also. Just like in other threads about witnessing crime. If it gets BAD and teach him not to say "somebody help me" nobody will help. Teach him to tell someone by name, to help me. "Craig, get a teacher" ... Teach him to take away their power, by controlling how he responds to them.

Compliment him on his courage. Tell him you are proud of him.
Fight them with honesty and integrity, and empower him with your love.

And if all else fails... let us know where these frickers live, and we'll make sure it stops.

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many schools have a "bully watch list" that alerts all faculty to kids who have been bullied routinely.

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Seems like they should have a list of the bullies not the kids being bullied. Watch them, catch them, expel them from school.

I don't think I'd want my kid's name on a "bullied" list. I know I wouldn't want to be on something like that when I was a kid.

I was lucky I had two older brothers that ended my "bullying" in the 4th grade. One day at recess, sixth grader kneed me in the nuts like Feliciana said happened to him. After school that day my brother, who was also a 6th grader, kicked his tail on the school grounds. I don't remember ever being picked on again.

I never picked on anyone. Other than things that happened at sports practices, don't remember my friends bullying anyone. I didn't participate in the stuff at practices. To me it made them look like O'Bannion on Dazed and Confused.

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My son is a good kid, super athletic

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of course he is. i have never met a parent whose kid is just an average athletic. they are always "super".

Is this school in East Baton Rouge parish??

"What you've got to do is cut the hamstring on the back of his leg right at the bottom. He'll never play golf again, because his weight displacement goes back, all his weight is on his right foot, and he'll push everything off to the right. He'll never come through on anything. He'll quit the game."

Your kid got taken behind the shed, it happens


Go wait behind the shed and ask those kids if they're ready to step up in weight class

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of course he is. i have never met a DAD whose kid is just an average athletic. they are always "super"

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Dad's think their kids are Jim Thorpe. Mom's think their kids are smart.

Or he can do what his dad did for him. Give his kid extra lunch money for the next 10 years.

Have your son carry a sharpened pencil. Pull it out of his pocket when they attack him and stab them in the jugular. problem solved.