re: Need an explanation on homosexuality

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All children are born asexual, nobody is gay, straight, bi, anything when they pop out.

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True. I think the problem is that people then take this and say that there can't be any biological components to one's preference, even when there are complex biological changes that we all go through (i.e., puberty).

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quote: All children are born asexual, nobody is gay, straight, bi, anything when they pop out. Exactly! So why can people take it as absolute truth that homosexuals are born gay when that's patently absurd!?!

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Ok sorry I forget concepts have to be broken down to an elementary level here. Obviously babies don't pop out of the womb wanting to get it on...I guess a better way to say it is it's not a choice. I understand that it's hard to admit that if you've grown up hearing homosexuality is wrong your whole life, so I don't expect you or anyone else to change your mind overnight. Luckily the culture is changing though.

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So why can people take it as absolute truth that homosexuals are born gay when that's patently absurd!?!

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People who say they were born gay are just as wrong as people who say they were born straight.

Human sexuality arises as our minds mature through a complex combination of genetics, environment and experience. There are almost certainly many heterosexuals who had the potential to be homosexual given the right circumstances, and many homosexual people who had the potential to be heterosexual. Moreover, sexuality is a spectrum. Very, very few are 100% homosexual or 100% heterosexual, and the vast majority of bisexual individuals still have a preference (meaning they may be 72% attracted to women, 28%% attracted to men).

These nice, neat little boxes we like to place human sexuality in are just simply not rooted in reality. Study after study shows that the overwhelming majority of people have had homosexual AND heterosexual fantasies at some point. Huge portions of those who claim heterosexuality have had homosexual experiences of some kind, and even higher percentages of homosexuals have had heterosexual experiences.

This is also why the comparisons to pedophilia, necrophilia, beastiality, etc. are nothing more than canards. A low percentage of individuals ever experience fantasies involving children or animals, yet the majority of people regardless of claimed orientation have had homosexual fantasies.

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The issue that the pro-gay marriage crowd on here has is that people will go out of their way to deny others basic rights that they, themselves have, because of their sexuality. They think that gays being married somehow negatively affects their own marriage.

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If the LGBT community would've skipped the "marriage" thingy and called it the "Blessed Union" or anything but marriage most of the opposition to homosexuals having a ceremony with all the legal rights of traditional marriage would've been diffused.

When you have a tradition such as marriage that was based primarily in a religious ceremony between man and woman and then introduce anything other than a man and woman you have a lot of opposition due to religious beliefs.

So once again I say, the easiest path would have been for homosexuals to define a ceremony anyway they see fit and call it something other than marriage and no one would have any way to deny them a legal union with all the benefits/protection as marriage and for the most part all this bickering shite would be over by now.

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Where I have a question is that I don't understand why calling someone who doesnt believe in homosexuality or is a homophobic, ignorant.

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Well they would at minimum be ignorant on what the word "believe" means

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Human sexuality arises as our minds mature through a complex combination of genetics, environment and experience. There are almost certainly many heterosexuals who had the potential to be homosexual given the right circumstances, and many homosexual people who had the potential to be heterosexual. Moreover, sexuality is a spectrum. Very, very few are 100% homosexual or 100% heterosexual, and the vast majority of bisexual individuals still have a preference (meaning they may be 72% attracted to women, 28%% attracted to men).

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The Dr. is all over this one, just take Mayor Bill De Blasio's wife Chirlane, she was a professed lesbian and even wrote a article in a magazine proclaiming such but then turned on a dime and married a man.

Another thing I've noticed over the course of 35-40 yrs is how the media and pop culture has influenced sexual behavior.
Never saw chicks feeling each other up and kissing when I was growing up in the 70's and 80's unless they were lesbians now it's a given if you go to a party or a bar with the under 40 crowd you'll get a free show once the girls get their drink on and start dancing.