Such a simplistic comment: "the child has not done a damn thing to..............).
I'm sorry if it's true and if the truth hurts.
Try putting yourself, or worse yet, your loved one, in this picture. You are sitting in a hospitial room, you've been repeatedly raped, tortured, mentally & physically used by a monster non stop for 2 days/nites. Your body is almost literally torn & hammered to pieces. Your mind violated in gross & perverse ways that will never leave your consciousness for all extents & purposes. Then your doctor, who you've known for over 20 yrs, walks up, your husband, mother, father, brother all by your side, and tells you in as humane a way as I've ever heard, that you are pregnant. You, of course, will immediately stop & think those thoughts you verbalize here so eloquently. And your complete focus will then be on that "child" & what will be done to it if you murder it.
I am very, very, very, very, very thankful I have not had to experience that, at least not in a close way. Just as thankful as I am, I'm sorry your family has had to go through this. I do not believe your sister just mindlessly discarded the child and forgot about it. I'm sure it was an agonizing decision. It is probably a good thing that it was - it is a very significant choice to make under those circumstances.
If you (and your family) choose to believe that it wasn't a child, just a tumorous mass, parasite, an extension of the rapist, a mole, a cyst - however you and your family choose to think about "whatever it was", I truly hope it gives ya'll peace. This topic is so sensitive, it is not just pro-choice that use these euphemisms. When a child dies prior to being born, they call it "miscarriage" or "stillborn", because the death of an infant is so, so traumatic - this makes it easier for the mother.
Maybe the language should be tweaked more - "induced miscarriage"? Maybe that would make it better for everybody.
I'm absolutely not sitting in judgment. I'm just asking questions. If ya'll don't want to answer the questions? Fine. If ya'll don't like the questions or are hurt by them? I'm sorry. Not my intention.
I do not object to abortion on demand. But it is, in my opinion, a child - a separate human being. (All my efforts to "suppress women" in the past were simply to protect these little ones that are, for all practical purposes, unregarded, unseen, unheard with no voice, no vote, no option.) It is the common state that all of us shared at one point in our existence - perhaps the only state we all truly share.
May G-d continue to help your family through this.