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re: Having "The Conversation"

Posted on 8/19/14 at 7:39 am to
Posted by Scruffy
Kansas City
Member since Jul 2011
72059 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 7:39 am to
What is this? When I think of "The Conversation," I think of the really uncomfortable sex talk parents have with their kids.

Do people actually have a how to talk to police conversation? That's new to me.
Posted by SlowFlowPro
Simple Solutions to Complex Probs
Member since Jan 2004
422246 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 7:40 am to
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When I think of "The Conversation," I think of the really uncomfortable sex talk parents have with their kids.

my dad tried to have this with me




....when i was 21
Posted by drunkenpunkin
Louisiana
Member since Dec 2011
7659 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 7:41 am to
I am white. Had this conversation with my kids as well. I don't understand how so many blacks can be so myopic. Like they think it's just sunshine, rainbows, and candy corn all day long if you're not black. It just boggles mind, and I am SO tired of race apologists. None of us can help the race or life situation we were born into, but every single person can work for what they want.
Posted by Jake88
Member since Apr 2005
68118 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 7:42 am to
So you were raised on an erroneous notion. A rather stupid one at that. Take the actions of the minority and extrapolate to all. That's a great idea.
Posted by SlowFlowPro
Simple Solutions to Complex Probs
Member since Jan 2004
422246 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 7:46 am to
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Like they think it's just sunshine, rainbows, and candy corn all day long if you're not black

it's self delusion and cognitive dissonance if a non-minority tries to explain it

i just read an article about self improvement and one major thing that people don't realize is that when you take the time to improve in an area (whatever...health, education, reading, etc), you have to give up that time that was spent in other areas (that you prefer).

you go to any "disenfranchised" group and what you will find way more often than not, is that they have NO concept of the effort it takes to get into the positive positions they think are just handed to people. this is why poor people are disproportionately fat, smokers, uneducated (by choice), underemployed, having children out of wedlock, etc.
Posted by drunkenpunkin
Louisiana
Member since Dec 2011
7659 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 7:48 am to
You left out the R word.
Posted by The Spleen
Member since Dec 2010
38865 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 7:57 am to
My dad told me to respect the badge, but people earn respect and if the cop is not respecting you, you're not obligated to respect him/her. Never consent to a car search, and if you're caught doing something wrong that could lead to an arrest, refuse to talk without a lawyer present.

Posted by kingbob
Sorrento, LA
Member since Nov 2010
67064 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 7:58 am to
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What was their reasoning for teaching you that all cops are scum?


Because enough of them are complete scum that your chances of encountering one (or many) during your young adult life is almost guaranteed. I have personally come across several (kudos to the BRPD for employing and defending them). I have had more positive experiences with police than negative, but those scummy cops make the world a more dangerous place for everyone.

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I know a lot of shitty doctors and lawyers but it doesn't mean that all of them are scum bags.


The difference lies in percentages and exposure. There's a good chance I could go my entire life without ever coming in contact with a shite head doctor. I can go many years at a time without having to deal with a vindictive, corrupt lawyer. I probably run into a TPOS cop at the very least once every year and a half. It only takes one TPOS cop to completely ruin your life. A bad cop can beat you, confiscate your stuff, get you kicked out of school, steal your car, murder your pet, put you in jail for no reason, fine you, evict you from your home, ect. A bad cop can ruin your home, your career, your friendships, your relationships, your life...ON A WHIM AND THE GOVERNMENT WILL DEFEND HIM TO THE DEATH! After freezing your assets, you won't even be able to afford that scummy lawyer while you are forced to confess to a crime you didn't commit in order to avoid major prison time, losing your right to vote, losing your right to own a firearm, your job, your property, and essentially losing years of your life wasted in prison.

So yes, my father and I had the conversation because it is possibly the most important conversation a parent can have with their teenager. Failure to teach those lessons can be DEADLY!.
This post was edited on 8/19/14 at 8:01 am
Posted by TROLA
BATON ROUGE
Member since Apr 2004
12301 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 8:00 am to
I'm not gonna pretend that being black doesn't make dealing with law enforcement more difficult.. As we continue to push more stoicism and military functionality towards departments, we will continue to experience the opposite result from intended. People, including myself as an upper middle white guy, feel threatened more than protected by the police..

With that, my parents had the talk with me from an early age.. We discussed that cops were not a judge/jury and that polite compliance was the safest route to take.
Posted by The Spleen
Member since Dec 2010
38865 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 8:03 am to
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I don't understand how so many blacks can be so myopic



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I am white.


You don't say.


I had a really close black friend in high school and college. We had a few of run-ins with the law while running around together. The difference in treatment we received from the cops was eye opening.
Posted by Jake88
Member since Apr 2005
68118 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 8:04 am to
Why do you come in contact with the police every year and a half? Is it possible that they're only thugs in your mind because you got caught doing something you shouldn't have?
Posted by kingbob
Sorrento, LA
Member since Nov 2010
67064 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 8:11 am to
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Why do you come in contact with the police every year and a half? Is it possible that they're only thugs in your mind because you got caught doing something you shouldn't have?


No, it's because I live in Baton Rouge. In BR, most of the police are from Livingston Parish, and come into work every day with an "us vs them" mentality. They have quotas for tickets and trump up charges constantly to maintain those quotas since they get bonuses based on the number of tickets they write. It costs more to contest the tickets than it does to pay them. Go to Tigerland and you will learn all you need to know about Baton Rouge police: 5 cop cars near the bars writing DUIs, MIPs, busting kids for possession, ect all while someone is murdered 200ft away, no suspects ever charged. Sickening.

I am always polite and considerate, but the police threaten people in my car during traffic stops and spread me on the hood and pat me down...when I wasn't even speeding and they weren't radaring. Thanks to all of the events having police as security, traffic accidents, check points, traps, crime, ect, there's almost no avoiding BRPD in the city.
This post was edited on 8/19/14 at 8:19 am
Posted by HeavyD
Baton Rouge
Member since Nov 2003
1036 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 8:29 am to

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They have quotas for tickets and trump up charges constantly to maintain those quotas since they get bonuses based on the number of tickets they write.


This is just stupid. I have family in law enforcement and only write tickets when needed. (mostly excessive speeding and careless driving)


quote:

Go to Tigerland and you will learn all you need to know about Baton Rouge police: 5 cop cars near the bars


These are policemen on extra duty paid for by the bars.

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am always polite and considerate, but the police threaten people in my car during traffic stops


Sounds like you need to tell your friends to shut up.

People are always blaming someone else. You don't get pulled over or stopped for obeying the law.
Posted by Jake88
Member since Apr 2005
68118 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 8:32 am to
don't drink and drive don't find yourself in possession of illegal substances.
I lived my first 30 years in New Orleans with a police force far more maligned than Baton Rouge's a and when I got stopped I never had a problem. of course I wasn't drinking and driving or in possession of illicit substances or had mouthy friends in the back of the car.
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Posted by kingbob
Sorrento, LA
Member since Nov 2010
67064 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 8:32 am to
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People are always blaming someone else. You don't get pulled over or stopped for obeying the law.


You do at checkpoints, which are damn near unavoidable in this town.
Posted by lsufan1971
Zachary
Member since Nov 2003
18165 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 8:34 am to
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They have quotas for tickets and trump up charges constantly to maintain those quotas since they get bonuses based on the number of tickets they write


Absolute bullshite right here. Where do you get your info from that they pay bonuses for writing tickets?
Posted by kingbob
Sorrento, LA
Member since Nov 2010
67064 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 8:34 am to
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don't drink and drive don't find yourself in possession of illegal substances.
I lived my first 30 years in New Orleans with a police force far more maligned than Baton Rouge's a and when I got stopped I never had a problem. of course I wasn't drinking and driving or in possession of illicit substances or had mouthy friends in the back of the car.


Never once has this even been a contributing factor. I've never had a bad experience with the NOPD, by the way. They've been very professional every time I've dealt with them (except for one cop inside Jazz Fast who offered to buy me a beer and share a blunt with me (I declined, but still funny) )
Posted by RCDfan1950
United States
Member since Feb 2007
34891 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 8:40 am to
We are experiencing the symptoms, of a greater philosophical argument. The core of the argument - and this "conversation" - goes to respect for Authority.

And like D'Souza pointed out in his documentary "America"..."Barack Obama did not create the movement...it created him". The 'movement' - and it's symptom, disrespect for the prevailing, traditional Constitutional Authority - is what inspires the folk who express contempt for the social, economic *injustice* that is manifest in the streets.

Everybody that can't get stuff by working the production of a good or service (job) route...wants stuff; and a lot of those will gladly blame society/Capitalism, which defines them/their ability/their worth for their inability to attain affluence. So, the perceive that it's the 'system'...and Obama/Progs/Marxist Egalitarian Ideology...lend moral and intellectual support to this narrative. So, all who buy in are in effect, aggrieved, persecuted, and have a moral right and impetus to fight against the unjust Capitalist system which holds them down.

That's it. It won't go away, because as the Marxist ("spread the wealth around") policy SHRINKS the economy, QE goes south, and the pie becomes smaller and inflationary costs get larger...the indignation and contempt for Authority will only grow. Attempts to control violent outbursts with a necessarily 'militarized' Authority - for the sake of civility and the dissemination of essential goods and services - will be met with an increasing level of self-righteous contempt, and sooner or later...the terrorism/martyrdom card. Remember the guy that shot the cop...and within a day, there was a memorial to the shooter in the street.

This will run it's course. There is no solution...because from the TOP (Obama/Progs/Egalitarian Marxists Ideology), down to the Hood...perception becomes reality. Quantum Theory confirms the ultimate affect of Subjectivity. It rules.

Earth 2014. Humanity figuring out the rules, "tilling the soil" after the 'fall'...and moving forward to true freedom, glory and Greater Love.



Posted by CherryGarciaMan
Sugar Magnolia
Member since Aug 2012
2497 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 8:46 am to
If you don't think that black people are pulled over more than white, you're in a dream world.

I remember many times driving from BR to NOLA on 10 when if you're not going 80, you'll get run off the road.

Nearly everytime a car was pulled over, the occupant was black.

Ever heard of DWB (driving while black)?
Posted by The Spleen
Member since Dec 2010
38865 posts
Posted on 8/19/14 at 8:47 am to
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This is just stupid. I have family in law enforcement and only write tickets when needed.


I also had a family member in law enforcement, and I can't speak to Baton Rouge Police, but the department he worked for absolutely had a ticket quota. It wasn't a written policy, more of an understood wink-wink policy. Generally the officers that were recognized for exemplary service were the ones that wrote the most tickets.

A couple of years ago, a former cop in Auburn blew the whistle on it there. Of course the police department denied and it's a difficult thing to prove since there's no written policy on it.
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