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re: Cant stand this guy in my new GF's social circle

Posted on 11/24/14 at 2:56 pm to
Posted by TheIndulger
Member since Sep 2011
19239 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 2:56 pm to
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What area of the country are you in?



Judging by his use of "organically" and "swaggy bros" I'd guess Denver or some where else in the west.

As to how to make friends, it does get more difficult as you get older. Meetup groups aren't really lame since they are people who have a common interest, so I'd at least go to one and see what the crowd is like.

Also you should take dancing lessons, that will keep you in shape, allow you to meet people and will be a fun skill to learn.

Join a sports league..go to work functions..there's gotta be some good choices there
Posted by Displaced
Member since Dec 2011
32711 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 2:58 pm to
quote:

I am a good athlete but feel like the athletic teams are more conducive to lifelong friends who don't seem eager to add a new dude to their social circle.


beer league kickball and softball.
Posted by Lester Earl
Member since Nov 2003
278389 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 3:07 pm to
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Does anybody else have any ideas of how to organically meet swaggy bros in a new town? Meetup groups seem kind of lame but I'm pretty desperate at this point. I am a good athlete but feel like the athletic teams are more conducive to lifelong friends who don't seem eager to add a new dude to their social circle. I could be wrong on that.



like i said, join a crossfit gym. EVen if its just for a 3 months, you can meet a ton of people of both sexes
Posted by Goldrush25
San Diego, CA
Member since Oct 2012
33794 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 3:13 pm to
Just deal with it. You will never be able to connect with her on that level that the professor is on.

She's with you, that should be enough. She's made her decision. If she wanted to be with him she would be. You'll only do harm by acting jealous and trying to limit her contact with him.

If you tell her not to associate anymore with him then that will absolutely ensure that he ends up smashing that.
Posted by SirWinston
PNW
Member since Jul 2014
81701 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 3:25 pm to
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Just deal with it. You will never be able to connect with her on that level that the professor is on.

She's with you, that should be enough. She's made her decision. If she wanted to be with him she would be. You'll only do harm by acting jealous and trying to limit her contact with him.



I think this is what I've settled on. I am going to be creative. I found his GF's twitter and noticed some things that may help me break the ice with her for when I (hopefully not for a long time) have to hang out with her grumpy arse again.
Posted by dcrews
Houston, TX
Member since Feb 2011
30191 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 3:26 pm to
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I know everything about this guy b/c my GF talks about him all the time


Realize the blatantly obvious, she likes this other guy. Tell her what's up and if she is difficult about it, walk your arse out the door.

Respect yourself and associate yourself with a woman who respects you. Your current gf clearly does not.
Posted by Chad504boy
4 posts
Member since Feb 2005
166249 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 3:31 pm to
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I found his GF's twitter


oh boy...
Posted by SirWinston
PNW
Member since Jul 2014
81701 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 3:32 pm to
I may try this Lester, but I already have my workout routine that I enjoy so switching to something completely different is something I'd like to avoid. Maybe add boxing or kickboxing instead so that I could more or less keep my same routine.
Posted by Funky Tide 8
Tittleman's Crest
Member since Feb 2009
52691 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 3:34 pm to
Just wanna chime in and say that OP is a fricking schmohawk with insecurity issues.
Posted by Thib-a-doe Tiger
Member since Nov 2012
35376 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 3:35 pm to
Tell him that you used to buttfrick a guy in prison that was in his field, and you're really interested in what he does. That'll throw him off
This post was edited on 11/24/14 at 3:36 pm
Posted by sjmabry
Texas
Member since Aug 2013
18500 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 3:38 pm to
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I want to date attractive girls and by nature attractive girls are attention whores.
You sir need to own the situation.
Posted by Future_FlexZone
Baton Rouge
Member since Sep 2013
284 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 3:52 pm to
dump your gf and hook up with the guy... you're obviously in love with him
Posted by Wolfhound45
Hanging with Chicken in Lurkistan
Member since Nov 2009
120000 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:05 pm to
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What area of the country are you in?

He is in Wisconsin. Madison, I believe.
Posted by LOCO5150
NWA
Member since Sep 2011
4867 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:14 pm to
You are going to have to pee on him or his personal "claimed" space one way or the other.


















It's the only way.
Posted by ManBearTiger
BRLA
Member since Jun 2007
21843 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:20 pm to
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You have absolutely nothing in common with her friend?


Well, both are banging the OP's gf- so they have that in common
Posted by LSU Fan 90812
A man more eviler than Skeletor.
Member since Feb 2005
50655 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:27 pm to
Ask the guy for a favor. Appeal to his innate need to feel superior. Be gregarious. Self-deprecate. After he does one favor, make sure to shower him with praise and thanks publicly. This will feed his ego. Then ask him for another favor. Because he has done one, he will be more inclined to do another, and before you know it, this guy is getting your shine box for you. The guy your girlfriend "worships" (likely only your perception) is now your errand boy.

This is a psychological effect known as the franklin effect - LINK

Quit playing games with people on their terms. If something doesn't work for you, change tactics. You can't always out alpha someone. Be smarter. Find what works for you. Turn strengths into weakness. There is no pull stronger than the ego.

You're welcome. Also, in the words of weezer, "want a girl who laughs for no one else." If she likes this guy there is nothing you can do. If you think it's really a thing- cut her loose. Someone out there wants you as bad as she wants him.
This post was edited on 11/24/14 at 4:34 pm
Posted by tigerfoot
Alexandria
Member since Sep 2006
56280 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:28 pm to
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I was way happier dating multiple women where I had the power and didn't have all my eggs in one basket
most of our misery is self chosen
Posted by Mung
NorCal
Member since Aug 2007
9054 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:30 pm to
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by nature attractive girls are attention whores.


So go ugly. at least they're grateful.
Posted by Mung
NorCal
Member since Aug 2007
9054 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:30 pm to
quote:

most of our misery is self chosen


TM - Alx
Posted by LSU Fan 90812
A man more eviler than Skeletor.
Member since Feb 2005
50655 posts
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:35 pm to
quote:

quote:
by nature attractive girls are attention whores.


So go ugly. at least they're grateful.


"If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife, it's all a matter of point of view, get an ugly girl to marry you."
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