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How do I get my S.O. to get on the same page w/ me regarding dog discipline?
Posted on 7/27/17 at 4:14 pm
Posted on 7/27/17 at 4:14 pm
If this isn't the correct board then please move admins, but I figured I'd get some actual serious answers here compared to the OT. Also, sorry for the novel.
Ole gal and I got a dog a few months back, it's a goldendoodle (what she wanted) and he's been a great dog. He's four and a half months old right now and has been a joy, but she has never owned a dog before and is struggling, at least in my eyes, in terms of discipline.
The dog is already housebroken and if he's with me he's great. He won't jump up, beg for food, listens to my commands, etc...However, if my girlfriend is home w/ him he plays her attention almost the entire time she's here. However, he jumps up on her and barks at her if she doesn't give him what he wants, food, a treat, etc....
She hates when I've 'disciplined' him in the past, but it's worked, clearly. He's a great and respectful animal when it's just him and I. I tell her she needs to discipline him and she'll give him the softest 'hit' on the nose ever if he jumps on her and then says he's too cute to put in his place.
Now I know the dog breed probably doesn't help me in this situation. He is a cute bastard. But the dog is two different people when it's just him and I compared to if she's here. He knows he can get whatever he wants from her and it's not going to be good down the road if I allow it to continue happening.
TIA for any encouragement or help.
Pic of dog for your enjoyment.
Ole gal and I got a dog a few months back, it's a goldendoodle (what she wanted) and he's been a great dog. He's four and a half months old right now and has been a joy, but she has never owned a dog before and is struggling, at least in my eyes, in terms of discipline.
The dog is already housebroken and if he's with me he's great. He won't jump up, beg for food, listens to my commands, etc...However, if my girlfriend is home w/ him he plays her attention almost the entire time she's here. However, he jumps up on her and barks at her if she doesn't give him what he wants, food, a treat, etc....
She hates when I've 'disciplined' him in the past, but it's worked, clearly. He's a great and respectful animal when it's just him and I. I tell her she needs to discipline him and she'll give him the softest 'hit' on the nose ever if he jumps on her and then says he's too cute to put in his place.
Now I know the dog breed probably doesn't help me in this situation. He is a cute bastard. But the dog is two different people when it's just him and I compared to if she's here. He knows he can get whatever he wants from her and it's not going to be good down the road if I allow it to continue happening.
TIA for any encouragement or help.
Pic of dog for your enjoyment.
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Posted on 7/27/17 at 4:19 pm to McCaigBro69
smack your GF on the nose and tell her to sit
Posted on 7/27/17 at 4:19 pm to McCaigBro69
just wait till you have kids...
Posted on 7/27/17 at 4:20 pm to Chad504boy
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just wait till you have kids...
Posted on 7/27/17 at 4:29 pm to McCaigBro69
OP, in your case, send your dog off to school. You are fighting a loosing battle. OR, keep the dog and kick the wife out.
Posted on 7/27/17 at 4:29 pm to McCaigBro69
You know what you have to do.
Is the dog's name Bautista?
Is the dog's name Bautista?
Posted on 7/27/17 at 4:35 pm to McCaigBro69
Your problem is not a matter of dog discipline.
Posted on 7/27/17 at 4:37 pm to McCaigBro69
Dog sounds fine. YOu need to discipline the S.O.
Try to explain to her why the discipline for the dog is necessary for future behavior, and that she need to be consistent with what you are doing with him for the dogs sake.
Try to explain to her why the discipline for the dog is necessary for future behavior, and that she need to be consistent with what you are doing with him for the dogs sake.
Posted on 7/27/17 at 4:38 pm to McCaigBro69
Improve your gf discipline.
Posted on 7/27/17 at 4:45 pm to Jack Daniel
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Improve your gf discipline.
Seems to be the consensus
Posted on 7/27/17 at 5:00 pm to McCaigBro69
You already know she's the problem here. Gotta explain it in a way that keeps the focus on the dog and shows why it'll be better for him if she gets on board with discipline.
Taking him out to public places, having company over for a nice dinner, etc all suck if you have some maniac dog who jumps all over people. If he behaves you'll be able to take him more places and people won't hesitate to come over or invite you and your dog over. Now is the time to teach this Bc it only gets harder as they age. Won't be so cute when this full sized dog jumps up and gets muddy paws all over her new dress before y'all go to dinner.
You also don't have to get her to hit him. This dog knows 2 jobs: protect and serve the masters. It wants to please its owners but you have to guide it. Stern voice can go a long way, repetition and not wavering is key. No dog wants to be scolded. Positive reinforcement is also very helpful - read praise and treats
Taking him out to public places, having company over for a nice dinner, etc all suck if you have some maniac dog who jumps all over people. If he behaves you'll be able to take him more places and people won't hesitate to come over or invite you and your dog over. Now is the time to teach this Bc it only gets harder as they age. Won't be so cute when this full sized dog jumps up and gets muddy paws all over her new dress before y'all go to dinner.
You also don't have to get her to hit him. This dog knows 2 jobs: protect and serve the masters. It wants to please its owners but you have to guide it. Stern voice can go a long way, repetition and not wavering is key. No dog wants to be scolded. Positive reinforcement is also very helpful - read praise and treats
Posted on 7/27/17 at 5:06 pm to AubieALUMdvm
Also, from a vet perspective, you want a wel behaved dog. Exams require a lot more force and restraint if the dog is bananas. It's also harder to do a very thorough exam on a bad dog = might increase chances something gets missed! Calm and cool dogs I can do lots more with and to them. Crazy dog? Sometimes require extra stuff like sedation which means more $$$
Posted on 7/27/17 at 5:13 pm to McCaigBro69
That's a cute bastard. You need to make her understand that NO ONE likes an undisciplined dog. Maybe you can approach it from the angle of future children. That dog needs to listen and behave and not knock your babies down.
My daughter and her husband would not discipline their dog and he is an a-hole. I don't go over there because the damn dog jumps all over people and demands attention 24/7.
My daughter and her husband would not discipline their dog and he is an a-hole. I don't go over there because the damn dog jumps all over people and demands attention 24/7.
Posted on 7/27/17 at 5:17 pm to McCaigBro69
2 Receiver shock collar system...should straighten both of them out
Posted on 7/27/17 at 5:30 pm to McCaigBro69
Non-possible
Posted on 7/27/17 at 5:43 pm to McCaigBro69
Just have to really help her understand how much more enjoyable it is to have a well behaved dog. You don't have to beat on the dog to discipline it, just be firm.
This post was edited on 7/27/17 at 5:45 pm
Posted on 7/27/17 at 6:01 pm to AubieALUMdvm
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You also don't have to get her to hit him.
Definitely true. Once you've established that a behavior is undesirable you can resort to firmness and showing that you are boss without hitting. For example, my golden will still occasionally dig in the trash. I usually bring him to ground zero and he immediately submits and knows he's done wrong. I'll push his nose in it, talk to him sternly and hold him down. The dog knows at this point he did wrong and I didn't hit him at all.
The biggest problem I had with disciplining the golden was that he was 1 year old when I met my fiancé. He was awful with the come command and would readily defy her whenever he pleased. She never gave any positive or negative reinforcement to him coming back to her or not listening to her. A couple scary moments of him almost getting run over in the road drove me to do lots and lots of training with him. Rewarding him for good behavior (treats) combined with punishing him for bad (shock collar) and the dog is excellent and disciplined now.
The biggest piece of advice I can give you is consistency over a long period of time. I trained my golden for about 2 months with the shock collar and walking around unleashed. He learned what he was supposed to do and wasn't supposed to do because it was repeated so many times.
He still knows that he can get away with more with her and he knows he can beg her for food too, but I don't think that will ever change.
But he's still not a complete a-hole like when I first met him. Y'all have to get on the same page.Posted on 7/27/17 at 6:52 pm to Chad504boy
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just wait till you have kids...
Amen brother. All my baby has to do is pretend like she's going to cry and she gets whatever she wants from my wife...immediately.
The baby has her trained already.
Posted on 7/27/17 at 6:54 pm to McCaigBro69
I've won field trials with three different breeds
Work around whatever SO does......thank me later
Work around whatever SO does......thank me later
Posted on 7/27/17 at 7:24 pm to PapaPogey
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You don't have to beat on the dog to discipline it
I should have explained it better, I don't 'hit' him like hard or anything. I have always just popped him on the nose when he used to jump on me. He doesn't do it to me anymore.
He is typically very well behaved when I take him places. He lives w/ me so I guess that's a plus. We've been to the vet several times and he's calm there as long as I am near. If I walk outside to take a phone call or something though and he's left w/ her then he'll try to play w/ the other animals and what not.
The whole thing is, is that since he's around me mostly he is usually very well behaved. However, he'll jump on her and her friends because they tell him too and act like they like that and what not. I guess maybe it's just me being annoyed because I don't want him to do that to anyone because it can bother some people.
Just every time I mention it to the ole gal when she complains about him jumping up on her long after she's come over she just says she doesn't want to push him down or pop him on the nose.
May need to check out a shock collar.
ETA: I also agree that a stern no goes a long way. If he's doing something I don't like and I say no across the room he usually stops. He's a great dog and is doing well in his training I think especially for his age. Just wish the girl would be a bit more firm w/ him
This post was edited on 7/27/17 at 7:26 pm
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