re: What the F is an "Emotional Affair" ?

“My husbands D is so small. I’m just not satisfied. He’s such an a-hole. He never does anything”

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Are you married or not?

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Since I answered your question. Let me ask you... I'm assuming you and your wife on on the same page with this subject and I assume you trust your wife .. so is it yall feel its just not worth the temptation or do yall find it disrespectful to have opposite sex friends ....

the rest of the class feel free to chime in..

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Platonic friendships aren't a real thing. Someone wants something from it.

Why would a man want female friends any way?

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I have a female friend that I've been friends with for 15+ years, it's been 100% platonic the entire time. My undergrad major was small and something like 90% female, and the one other male was a loser, so if I wanted study partners they had to be female. I've only really kept in touch with one of them, but we've worked together at different organizations for I think 9 of the 14 years after we graduated. I don't talk to her every day or anything but we probably talk on the phone once every two weeks and text at least weekly. It's mostly about work stuff because that's a major thing we have in common, but we also talk about our families (we are both married and have daughters who are within a year of each other), and other things that we have in common. She lives 4 hours away, so we aren't hanging out or anything, but we'd go to lunch probably weekly back when we worked for the same organization and lived in the same city.

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My undergrad major was small and something like 90% female,

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family and consumer sciences??

I’m joking … a lot of men think there are no such things as female friends. People from both sexes are totally capable of being friends. But sometimes someone ruins it.

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t’s about having boundaries and not being a cuck.

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Having "boundaries" isnt going to stop your wife from fricking around on you Its about personal integrity. Either she has it or not.

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You want your wife or girlfriend spending alone time with another straight man/non-relative?

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This sounds like something a man would say, Walt.

My wife’s affair started as an emotional affair with her work husband. She confided in him for everything. Instead of talking with me, it was with him. Then it morphed into lunch dates during the work week. I had no clue until she told me. I didn’t want to think my wife and friend were in love.

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Boundaries simply help keep you from putting yourself in stupid positions when (not if) those times come.

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what keeps are person from crossing those boundaries? Integrity

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If everything is out in the open, everyone’s SO’s are in the loop, and there’s no real romantic flirting or undertones, then it’s just a harmless friendship.

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I’ve had this since 2007. If I think about it completely objectively it’s sort of weird. But no one involved (spouses, their parents, and our kids included) actually thinks it is.