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re: What the F is an "Emotional Affair" ?
Posted on 2/2/24 at 1:32 pm to ThuperThumpin
Posted on 2/2/24 at 1:32 pm to ThuperThumpin
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There have existed women in my life that I thought were cool and funny but I was not physically attracted to in the least. I called them friends.
Then they probably wanted to frick you. It's human nature.
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Posted on 2/2/24 at 1:49 pm to LNCHBOX
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Then they probably wanted to frick you. It's human nature.
Some sure...but I dont think most would invite me over to hang out with them and their families or introduce me to their single friends if they wanted to frick me unless I've been missing out on a lot of group sex opportunities over the years.
I think some of yall must have ran in pretty small social circles growing up if you think you cant have platonic female friends.
Posted on 2/2/24 at 1:53 pm to Bob Bass
Men and women are very different.
For many men sex is the line of demarcation. As in "as long as you are banging me and no one else I don't give a damn if Mike at work is who you are having your deep, life discussions with. In fact, better him than me!" Men don't really need an emotional connection with a woman to want to have sex with them.
That's not the case for many women. They need to feel an emotional connection with their boyfriend/husband BEFORE they want to have sex with him. So she is judging you through HER perspective. She doesn't appreciate that you can have a great relationship with another woman and not want to have sex with her. She's thinking that because you (presumably) have a close connection with the woman at work and not her (your girlfriend) you must have an emotional connection with the woman at work. And if you have an emotional connection with the woman at work, then she is someone you must be (or want to) having (have) sex with...because for your girlfriend an emotional connection is a prerequisite for her (your girlfriend) to have sex with someone.
Even if you have successfully convinced her you are not, in fact, having sex with the work friend she's going to continue to think that as long as you have a good connection with the work friend and not your her it is just a matter of time before you eventually have sex with the work friend. Hence, an "emotional affair" that will inevitably lead to a physical affair.
Just a little word of advice. If your girlfriend thinks you are more emotionally invested in another girl and not her (even if that thought may be completely illogical) she is eventually going to seek out a guy who she feels IS emotionally invested in her. And if/when she finds him, there is a strong possibility you might come home early from work one day and find that guy balls-deep in your girlfriend. And you will be left wondering why your girlfriend is banging that ugly MFer?
I'm not saying your girlfriend is right. Hell, she may be nuts and is giving you a signal right now to hit the eject button. I'm just telling you what she means by "emotional affair" and where that path ends if she is convinced you are having one.
For many men sex is the line of demarcation. As in "as long as you are banging me and no one else I don't give a damn if Mike at work is who you are having your deep, life discussions with. In fact, better him than me!" Men don't really need an emotional connection with a woman to want to have sex with them.
That's not the case for many women. They need to feel an emotional connection with their boyfriend/husband BEFORE they want to have sex with him. So she is judging you through HER perspective. She doesn't appreciate that you can have a great relationship with another woman and not want to have sex with her. She's thinking that because you (presumably) have a close connection with the woman at work and not her (your girlfriend) you must have an emotional connection with the woman at work. And if you have an emotional connection with the woman at work, then she is someone you must be (or want to) having (have) sex with...because for your girlfriend an emotional connection is a prerequisite for her (your girlfriend) to have sex with someone.
Even if you have successfully convinced her you are not, in fact, having sex with the work friend she's going to continue to think that as long as you have a good connection with the work friend and not your her it is just a matter of time before you eventually have sex with the work friend. Hence, an "emotional affair" that will inevitably lead to a physical affair.
Just a little word of advice. If your girlfriend thinks you are more emotionally invested in another girl and not her (even if that thought may be completely illogical) she is eventually going to seek out a guy who she feels IS emotionally invested in her. And if/when she finds him, there is a strong possibility you might come home early from work one day and find that guy balls-deep in your girlfriend. And you will be left wondering why your girlfriend is banging that ugly MFer?
I'm not saying your girlfriend is right. Hell, she may be nuts and is giving you a signal right now to hit the eject button. I'm just telling you what she means by "emotional affair" and where that path ends if she is convinced you are having one.
Posted on 2/2/24 at 1:55 pm to ThuperThumpin
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I think some of yall must have ran in pretty small social circles growing up if you think you cant have platonic female friends.
Nah, just experienced enough to know better. But hey, you and your spouse feel free to have close friends of the opposite sex. Don't forget to post here when your marriage ends.
Posted on 2/2/24 at 1:55 pm to LegendInMyMind
Do not let her cuck you…
Posted on 2/2/24 at 2:03 pm to Bob Bass
Solution: don't be friends with females if you/they are in a relationship.
Posted on 2/2/24 at 2:05 pm to LNCHBOX
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But hey, you and your spouse feel free to have close friends of the opposite sex. Don't forget to post here when your marriage ends.
Listen to what you are saying....you think not allowing my wife or her not allowing me to have opposite sex friends some how insures the integrity of the relationship? If her or I have the willingness or the weakness to frick around its going happen anyway and the relationship should end at that point.
Posted on 2/2/24 at 2:09 pm to ThuperThumpin
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Listen to what you are saying....you think not allowing my wife or her not allowing me to have opposite sex friends some how insures the integrity of the relationship? If her or I have the willingness or the weakness to frick around its going happen anyway and the relationship should end at that point.
I don't allow or disallow my wife to do anything.
Also, your posts read like you're not married, I'll be interested to see what your opinion is when you are on teh other side
This post was edited on 2/2/24 at 2:12 pm
Posted on 2/2/24 at 2:43 pm to Bob Bass
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What the F is an "Emotional Affair" ?
its just an excuse women use to justify cheating, while blaming you for causing them to cheat
Posted on 2/2/24 at 2:52 pm to ThuperThumpin
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but I dont think most would invite me over to hang out with them and their families or introduce me to their single friends if they wanted to frick me unless I've been missing out on a lot of group sex opportunities over the years.
So, you them inviting you to do stuff/family/friends was just all platonic and no ulterior motives?
Posted on 2/2/24 at 2:58 pm to LNCHBOX
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I'll be interested to see what your opinion is when you are on teh other side
other side as in marriage or other side as in failed relationship due to "just friends"?
Posted on 2/2/24 at 2:59 pm to ThuperThumpin
Are you married or not?
Posted on 2/2/24 at 3:00 pm to Spaceman Spiff
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So, you them inviting you to do stuff/family/friends was just all platonic and no ulterior motives?
Yes..this is really strange or I'm really strange....yall dont socialize with people of the opposite sex that you dont want to frick?
Posted on 2/2/24 at 3:00 pm to Bob Bass
It's one of two things:
1. A lie someone tells to cover up a physical affair.
2. A precursor to an imminent physical affair.
1. A lie someone tells to cover up a physical affair.
2. A precursor to an imminent physical affair.
Posted on 2/2/24 at 3:01 pm to ThuperThumpin
It’s about having boundaries and not being a cuck.
Sorry but a married women should not have guy friends that she hangs out with just them.
Posted on 2/2/24 at 3:01 pm to ThuperThumpin
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I think some of yall must have ran in pretty small social circles growing up if you think you cant have platonic female friends.
I've had some great female friends, totally platonic, but I get that some folks aren't wired that way.
Posted on 2/2/24 at 3:08 pm to lsu777
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Sorry but a married women should not have guy friends that she hangs out with just them.
Some guys are so naive. Any dude that disagrees with this need to look no further than the Jody thread. A bunch of examples of guys openly having sex with married chicks.
Posted on 2/2/24 at 3:15 pm to LNCHBOX
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Are you married or not?
Not married but in 15 year committed relationship with kids. Been on the other side of the failed relationship due to "just friends". Seen others relationships failed due "work freinds". So I'm not trying to be obtuse or oblivious to what you are saying. But in all those cases there were cracks in the foundation already.
Posted on 2/2/24 at 3:20 pm to 1BamaRTR
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There are a lot of men on here and elsewhere that also agree men and women cannot be actual platonic friends
Sounds like a "they" problem
Some of my closest friends are female, but these aren't people that I talk to very often. I imagine the same people who think that you can have friends with the opposite sex also believe that you don't really have a close relationship with a person or family unless you're in constant communication.
Posted on 2/2/24 at 3:22 pm to Bob Bass
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Bob Bass
I direct you over to the Jody thread.
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